my private parts when we're being intimate. He will touch my breasts and my butt - but he won't touch the BEST part...he will perform oral though? What gives? Anyone else have this problem?
My "parts" are all normal and yummy when we get it going - and most of the time I'm waxed!!!!
When I ask he says he'd rather see me touch myself??????
2006-09-12 12:44:37 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ALSO i might add......he touches himself with one and and touches me with the other......he prefers for him to get himself going and me to get myself going..... I HATE IT
2006-09-12 12:54:52 · update #1
HAND - i left out hand up there!! sorry
2006-09-12 12:55:28 · update #2
He's got an issue that probably goes back a long time before he met you. It could even be something from childhood--some unpleasant association. On a guess, I'd say it was some impression that that type of touching was dirty. Possibly even a urine fixation. If it is really important to you, both of you go to counseling, that way it won't be you pushing him into it. Easier to pull him into counseling than to push him into it. Tell him you feel that you need to talk something out in regards to yourself. It could be something ranging from a careless remark he heard when he was four years old to something really deep seated and serious. If he refuses help--you go, and find out how to handle it. B.
2006-09-12 12:54:24 · answer #1 · answered by Brian M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesn't know what's up. Maybe you could ask him why he won't touch you. Saying what he would rather do is kind of a cop-out. It should be important to him you would rather do, then you can work out the rest on your end. Maybe he had a bad experience before you guys hooked up. Be sensitive to his right to not want to touch you, or express his love for you "his way" and that should help things along.
Good luck!
2006-09-12 12:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by joelgehringer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he does not like the slime on his fingers. If he is going down on you having sex with you and touching you pretty much everywhere else.. then why are you complaining? You are gettng the better part of the deal and you think that there is an issue....
Would you like to constantly have your fingers dipped inside of someone considering that when you take them out there is a scent and a slime covering your fingers which you can't really get off for a while.....???
Think about it.
2006-09-12 12:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by GhandiDahandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he might be worried that he is going to touch u wrong and might hurt u. Me, personally, I like to play with that part of the body. Tell him to give u a real answer, instead of that "i'd rather see u touch urself" ****. Even though it's very arousing. Haha.
2006-09-12 12:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by sinista_def 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he wants to feel you getting all hot and bothered while hes performing oral so he can beat his chest and say IM the man instead of using his fingers
I dont know what to tell you, would he stick his fingers in your butt: now if he does that then ask him why he cant do it in your private area in the front
2006-09-12 13:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by wilowdreams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u want to leave a landing strip cause face it were u always waxed even before u were married or what if u try to do things like having him try to feel u from behind or guiding his hand when ur playing with urself.
2006-09-12 12:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband only loves oral but he needs to try some other things for sex. it isn't just about the butt or the breasts it is about an emotional connection during sex. tell him he should try penetration during sex in the sweet spot area. . if my fiance didn't touch my spot down there i would be kinda pissed off. cause it is there for a few reasons peeing orgasms birth and sex...
2006-09-12 12:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by Da Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you shold just let it be and after a little while say i have a surprise for you, say close your eyes and strip down sit on his lap and maybe it will get him in the mood, or possibly a strong drink if you really want him too
2006-09-12 12:47:38 · answer #8 · answered by CHANNING TAUM HOTTIE<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds strange that he will perform oral but won't touch. His answer about watching you touch yourself sounds a bit fishy to me ;).
You need to talk to him again.
2006-09-12 12:47:55 · answer #9 · answered by Saskia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably u need to tell him how u feel when he touches u. U can use ur hands to lead his hands and then show him wat u want. Try returning the favor or touching each other at the same time.
2006-09-12 12:48:56 · answer #10 · answered by dara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋