2006-09-12 12:37:42 · 11 answers · asked by kimbriang 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it started when called me at work and asked me about this guy that my sister takes home maby once out of a week from work and she said something about it this moring in the car befor i got out so he called me at break and started auring with me on the phone so when he got home he said he had been off every since 2:30 when he dont get off until to 4:30 so i just asked him where he had been he didnt answer me so i started throwing little thing at him
2006-09-12 13:06:33 · update #1
Nothing against youself; but perhaps your husband did the best thing by calling in a temporary -mediator (police) to help get control of the situation . I, also wouldn't know the intensity of your dispute at that time; but i do know that it is usually during moments like that which is when one spouse tends to over-react and become physically violent with the other . Just maybe your husband is smarter than most us men (or even more than what you care to credit him for)by "knowing & respecting" his limits when engaged in such an argument ? Good for him!
So, i will assume that the police did finally arrive & settle the dispute? If so, then your question seems to be "what should you do now?
Well first of all let us try focusing on the key words within the contents of your question it-self. ..."me & my husband fight alot" ! Wow! That would deffinitely indicate a sure sign that maybe there is a terrible "frusturation" build-up in the relationship that could be attribute to a number of things. Perhaps the worst of all being the inability on both your behalf to create the opportunity to have a "heart-to-heart ,straight from the soul" type open-communication and , really try talking- out just what the source of your unhappiness might be? And, if that is in-fact the essential problem... then it would be my sincerest suggestion that if you two truely care e-nuff about each other and really want to save your marriage ( especially, if children are involved) then pleaseeeeeeee go seek professional-help( a marriage Counselor) while there is still time & hope! I am sure to say that it could only be for the benefit of all involved.
Wish you all the luck in keeping the marriage going & family together!!
2006-09-12 13:18:56 · answer #1 · answered by anthony J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your ? was not complete, or maybe it was me who don't understand
but if I got it he call the police did they made a writing complain, did the arrest you
what he is trying to do is getting ready to make a case for divorce
if you have children get ready to loss them because he is trying to show that you are abusive
so you need to think and be very smart
you will see that he be starting the fight more offen
so when he does walk away if you have to take drive go to the movie Relax before youget back home
and from now on be the one who call the police
make sure their is no markon him not a scratch
because you don't want for the table to turn on you
2006-09-12 19:48:11 · answer #2 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound stressed--it's not easy but maybe ask a couple of questions
---does he instigate the arguments or is it you? Really look at it.
---is he trying to make you look like the bad guy all the time?
---do you have much to lose by leaving? Material things are not as important an issue when it comes to self-worth.
2006-09-12 19:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by avaddohn-Apollyon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is time to chill out and seperate for a while. There is no sense in calling the police and arguing unless he physically hurt you.
It is time to pack up move in with a friend or back home with Mother and chill.
2006-09-12 19:41:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First edit you question and put more details. Why did he call the police?
2006-09-12 19:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you and your husband are lack of communication. how long have been married? when you have a gap, you are NOT comminicating very well.
2006-09-12 19:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by yfort 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave for a couple days and see what happens
2006-09-12 19:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him bcause he doesnt sound like that great of a guy
2006-09-12 19:41:13 · answer #8 · answered by jess_hks 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh crap that sucks!
just keep your distance from him are you sure you two love each other and want to be together?
2006-09-12 19:42:04 · answer #9 · answered by Lauren D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to learn to troll better
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ato8CPlsD_0ptQsFcp4RaKrzy6IX?qid=20060912171516AArm8r5
I think you have multiple personalities
2006-09-12 20:25:29 · answer #10 · answered by wilowdreams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋