I'm 15 years old in 10th grade.......Like, I feel so lonely at school, even when I'm with my 'friends' and I say 'friends' because whenever I'm around them, I feel like I have to pretend to be who they are, you know? All they wanna do is talk about "how cute he is" or "what so and so said to me today" or "she gave me a dirty look and now I wanna kick her a.s.s" just stupid stuff like that and gossip. I'm just not like that at all. Lately I've been trying torespect everyone and be nice to everyone, even if they don't fit in to the 'cool' category. Like for example there's this girl at school who wore cat ears one day. All my firends were like she looks dumb, but the girl told me that she was wearing them because her other friends at diff. schools wear them also. It's kind of a thing they do. I just smiled and thought 'oh everyone does stuff like that' which they do, but my friends were all just laughing and saying how dumb she looked......all I could do was just say 'that's mean'
2006-09-12 12:12:18 · 14 answers · asked by K 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ever hear the saying "mean people suck"? well its true. people who feel it necessary to mock and mistreat others are generally very unhappy themselves. its a form of self-hatred. i would say you should feel sorry for them, and find some friends who have a more humane view of others. the reason you are feeling so down is probably because you understand kindness, and hanging with mean spirited people as your primary group of friends is making you feel justifiably miserable. misery loves company LOL. it sound to me like your friend with the ears has a lot of self-confidence, and that sounds like someone i want to hang around with. you are who you hang with. it takes a lot of guts to be yourself, but it's really worth it. it may cost you some "friends", but having real friends who are loyal when your back is turned is waaaaaaay better. b kool, and feel free to go ahead and grow up whether they do or not.
2006-09-12 12:25:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
May I just say that reading your question was like a breath of fresh air! You are wonderful, and I wish more kids were like you.
I think many kids are watching too much TV these days and copying the shallow, irritating behaviors that they see on reality shows. No one is original anymore.
NEVER pretend to be someone else just to fit in. Better to be lonely then a fake. You are the genuine article.
I am 31 years old. I still have a tough time making friends because I can only be with genuine people.
Have you thought of maybe joining a youth group at church? Joining a sports team? I find girls who play sports are more "real" and less focused on boys and looking cool.
Anyway, good luck sweetie.
2006-09-12 19:49:57 · answer #2 · answered by pbintoau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie don't worry about it. You sound mature beyond your years. Hopefully God will bring you some friends that are more like you. High school is kind of lame as relationships go anyway. Try to meet some people that you can get along better with and then slowly pull away from the friends you have now. High school will be over before you know it!
2006-09-12 19:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by tallgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to find some new friends that you actually have something in common with. Get together with the other girl and get some cat ears. You don't have to follow the crowd if it is not making you happy.
2006-09-12 19:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all know this. High school is not real world. It won't always be this way. When you get older and you and your friends have matured you'll see that the "Clique" lines have blurred. I commend you for being respectful to everyone. That is showing your true character and you should be proud of that. You can stand up to your friends and tell them your true feelings. They will either open their eyes (not likely) or think you are the one being rude. Good Luck Hon, it does get better when you are older.
2006-09-12 19:22:10 · answer #5 · answered by Victoria C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you dont like the whole "highschool drama" then I say take all your energy and poor it into school and get yourself into a good college. That way ten years down the road when they are all preggo and divorced and still gossiping, you'll rock with an awesome career.
2006-09-12 19:34:34 · answer #6 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you are not with the right group. Friends supposed to be fun and agree to "almost" everything, we call it common interests. It's not depression but it's more like frustration, that why are you in this group when you do, think differently.
You sounded very smart so why do what pleases you. You are young not to enjoy life, friends and things in general.
2006-09-12 19:25:37 · answer #7 · answered by tangerine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get involved in something you like to do and meet some people who like to do similar things. It's nicer to be friends with somebody when you have something in common to talk about other than the other people you are surrounded by.
2006-09-12 19:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by as_myself 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you need to find friends you are more comfortable with. Friends you can be around and be silly and goofy if you want to be. My friends aren't all cute nor are they popular but they are my friends that I could be ME around and that is all that matters. Be who you are not who they want you to be. In the long run you will be much happier.
2006-09-12 19:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find some new friends who have stuff in common with you. if you just continue to live your life like this continuing to pretend what your not, your going to have a sad and lonley life. so be real to your friends, tell them to stop buggin' other people or just leave them and find new friends.
2006-09-12 19:26:47 · answer #10 · answered by Chocolate Lover♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋