I have 3 children 2 boys 11, 8 and 1 girl 10. I am married to a great guy that has no children , and we've been trying for 3 years now! My periods are slightly irregular , 30-34 days and sometimes skipping 2 months!I used to have very regular periods, every 28 days! All of a sudden about 4 years ago they started getting irregular, I had no problems getting pregnant either! I have been to a lot of doctors who say I'm fine, and my hubby also , what in world is the problem ! I'm almost to the point where I want to end my marriage to him because I can't bear him a child!! Can someone give me some advice? It will be greatly appreciated!! Thanks in advance!
2006-09-12 12:03:39 · 8 answers · asked by KK 5 in Health ➔ Women's Health
He loves my kids and he's been very patient with me and understanding, I am feeling like maybe he wants to go explore other options even though he hasn't voiced it to me , but that's the way I feel!! I don't know what to do!! I know he wants his own child even though he's never lashed out at me or anything.
2006-09-12 12:34:07 · update #1
Let me get this straight, you already have 3 great kids......
He is a great guy......yet you are thinking about dumping him because you can't seem to get pregnant?
Why? does he not love the children you already have? Does he insist that you bear his child? Or do you wish to end the marriage because you cant be a "real woman" and give this guy a child? Perhaps he should go out and meet someone who can give him a child?
Have the two of you really sat down and talked about this?
Maybe you are under too much pressure to have a child? I have seen it more than once, couples trying and trying to have children, some even been told by doctors that they might never have children, then about the time they give up and get on with their lives, the lady will get pregnant...
stop trying so hard and find something else to do.....it might just happen
Good luck
2006-09-12 12:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if your marriage is based sole on having a child then you are not in it for the right reasons.
Talk to your husband and see how he feels about the topic. Then proceed with reckless regard.
You are trying too hard. And getting stressed about it is not going to help you either.
Enjoy your moments together. Make it fun and spontanious. If the only reason you are having sex is to try to make a baby the pressure is enough to mess up you cycle and cause problems getting pregnant.
Stop trying so hard and start having more fun. Forget about getting pregnant and have fun again. You may just be surprised at how effect that can be.
also be patient. It may take quite some time but it will happen.
2006-09-12 19:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by plantladywithcfids 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My periods became very irregular all of a sudden a few years ago. My doctors checked just about everything out on me and couldn't find anything wrong. Just this year I was finally diagnosed with PCOS. My doctor put me on Glucophage which has regulated my periods very well. I feel so much better too.
Maybe you should ask your doctor to check you for ovarian cysts. If they haven't done a HSG test on you yet, they really need to. You might have a tubal blockage that is preventing the sp*rm from getting up the tubes.
Sorry you are going through this. ((hugs))
2006-09-12 19:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by GlassFaerie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to find a specialist who knows more about what your going through. My best friend had 2 children with her first hubby and 2nd hubby wanted a child too, they tried for 9 years and she finally got pregnant. If there is no medical problem, than you just have to do the wait game. Practicing is the fun part! I know I haven't helped you much but I just wanted you to know what happened to my friend. Maybe the same will happen for you!! Good Luck!
2006-09-12 19:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by Jaded 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to end your marriage because you can't get pregnant? Wow, maybe shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. Poor guy.......he probably feels a little inadequate. That's so not cool to do to your husband. Maybe you should have just ran around having sex with anyone on two feet and married them after you got preggo. Try an ovulation kit, for crying out loud.
2006-09-12 19:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by rere 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and relax maybe the stress is getting to you. Good luck!
2006-09-12 19:08:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not qualified to advice you as you have plenty of experience in sex .
2006-09-13 10:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by Gopal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has his fertility been tested
2006-09-12 19:07:32 · answer #8 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋