me and my husband have been together for 8 yrs married 3 yrs and lately i have not been sexually fulfilled . How do i tell him ?
2006-09-12 11:47:11 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just lay there like a dead fish.
2006-09-12 11:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Assuming you're a woman, figure out what satisfies you first. If you don't know....how could he possibly figure it out.
If you know, which most of us woman do, try new things with your husband. Plan a dinner together and have sex talk....like mentioning the things you like that he does do and things that you like to do to him. Ask questions about things that you haven't tried but think will satisfy you to get his feeling about those things. Try them if he seems for it.
Take the initiative to spice things up. Be flirtatious, lift the nighty up as you pass by him til he looks. Give him those sensual kisses and walk away....he might follow the lead. Tell him what feels good when he touches you. Even the slight.....oooh yeah!
Communicate with words, noises, sensual glances..... keep trying. It can only get better...right?!
2006-09-12 12:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by Julie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta make the first move. What turns you on? Bring it into the bedroom, tell him about it. You can't just expect him to guess, or you'll never get anywhere. You need to either do some shopping ( lots of cool adult stores you could check out, many with comfortable environments that appeal to women if you're shy about it) or start making suggestions in bed. You need to approach him, tell him what you want. This is all you.
2006-09-12 12:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by hawt2trawt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My determination of better half has not something to do with what she chooses to have faith in. i'm an Atheist married to a Buddhist. true love accepts and loves the guy as an entire does it not? A manipulative love might attempt to alter that individual to fulfill very own expectancies might it not? If I in hassle-free terms chosen to love for a "particular" reason or trait then i may be a Theist does not I. think of approximately it!
2016-10-14 22:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make an appointment with him. Just the two of you, face to face, with out any interuptions. At the time you make this appointment, let him know what it is about. Thus you will not come from the typical "attack" mode and he will too have time to think about it as well. If you can not talk with out arguing about such an intimate detail of your relationship, then I would seek a third non bias party to help you......marriage counsler. You should give your significant other the chance to provide you with your needs hopefully he will be able to do that. If not, thats a shame. Another angle, e-mail. It gives each of you time to absorb, retain and respond.
2006-09-12 11:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It do tend to become stale over a period of time.A little experimentation may be in order here.Try different settings-heck the back seat of the car can be soo romantic-different times or even some role playing.Get away for a weekend.The fire has to be fanned to keep burning.
2006-09-12 11:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by hungerforknowledge 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't come out and say it, but there are other ways. Constructive ways. Like the next time you make love or whatever you want to call it, try asking him for different things. Like "Honey I have heard that...(fill in blank).. this really dives women crazy, can we try?" Or, "Baby, it really turns me on when you (again fill in blank). Men love to know what they do really makes you melt.
Try to make it more full filling for him too, ask him to try new things and you try new things it's like a completely different view on love making and check out ideas in Cosmo if you are out. They most of the time have the same old stuff, but if you haven't tried it - maybe it would work for you.
2006-09-12 12:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by Farmgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion and what I have discovered about women is that they only have sex to get ahead, or to better themselves, or to have children, other than that they could not care less about having sex with a man / their husband. Women are biologically programmed to seek a sexual mate only to reproduce. Sex is not important to women after having the children they want or menopause occurs.
2006-09-12 12:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by Bob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps u can try to entice him w/ lingerie, etc..if he knows u are in the mood, maybe he will understand that u WANT to be more physical. remember women peak sexually much later than a man does! weird huh? =T
and if that doesn't work, ur gonna have to communicate w/ him. that u'd like to be more physical w/ him. discuss what u can do, go on dates, be more romantic......that u need more contact w/ him. good luck.. usually guys will oblige when they understand what you want..until then, they have NO IDEA what is going on! :)
2006-09-12 12:08:00 · answer #9 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...i guess all men don't like to been told that they dont satisfy they partners,...i am not saying its a good thing though but its in the man's personality like curiousty in women...so the best way to tell your husband...is to sugest and adjust the romance in the relation...the relation takes to do get done and needs two to be fullfilled...play with him...seduce him...see what he really like...and do it...don't get low...but men likes women who smile
maybe you choose time for the relation when he is tired or not on the mood or just getting it done...choose the right stuff before doing it...eventually he is your husband...no one strange..good luck
2006-09-12 11:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by alexandre 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try saying hun we have been married awhile i and we haven't been sexually active could we a little, or hvae sex some night
2006-09-12 12:58:19 · answer #11 · answered by CHANNING TAUM HOTTIE<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋