I have been knowing my boyfriend since I was 13 (9 years) We were bf/gf then but it was not serious. The relationship got more serious when I was about 16. Well, we talked about the idea of marriage and he gave me my engagement ring on Feb 14, 2004. We were both in school then and weren't thinking about planning a wedding then. We moved in together Apr. 2006. Now he's out of school and I'm in my senior year and i'm ready to start our new life together. We've talked about this together and I asked him when, and he told me that it didnt matter. He knew that I have started making plans for July 2007. After a couple of nights of me complaining to him for staying out with friends to 5, 6, 9am, all of a sudden he says that he isnt ready. the funny thing about this is he told me thru AOL IM! He says that we're not ready because we're too young (21 &23) we need to enjoy life, marriage is a big step and we're not prepared. Is there something that we need to prepare for before we get married?
2006-09-12 11:36:01 · 10 answers · asked by Sparkle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u both got together really and u r still young maybe u have just grown apart theres nothing you have to do in order to be prepared 4 marriage apart from u both need to ready to make that sort of commitment and he just isnt at least hes being honest with u
2006-09-12 11:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by sarah71397 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the truth. Sorry, but your bf is right. If you two married right now, your marriage would be doomed for disaster. Not only are you too young but youve only known each other. Neither would be truly ready. Experience life and get it out of your systems and in a few years if you two are still an item, then think about marriage. If this was meant to be itll happen but be truly ready and never have any regrets about what if. Dont rush it, have some fun and experience life for what it has to offer before settling down for life. Youll be just fine. This isnt the end of the world, just postponing it for a little bit. Good luck
2006-09-12 11:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me you both are too young to marry. The fact that he told you over an instant message is a BIG sign that marriage should be out of the question. Being married is a lot of responsibility and if he being irresponsible and hanging out with his buddies all hours, that shows he is not ready at all.
2006-09-12 11:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by acedelux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He told you the situation and you ignored him. He told you by IM because it's SO huge, he thought he couldn't face you with it. He doesn't want marriage at this time in his life, and nothing you can do will change that. It hurts, I am sure, but now is the time for you to back off and give him space. It's impossible to know where your relationship will go from here, but you may be sure it's not going to follow the script you have written in your mind. Sorry!
2006-09-12 11:44:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No honey, he do not want to marry you.. He is hanging with the boys and acting like a teenager... yes you two are young and marriage is a big step.... But as you can see he is very immautre.... I would live him and worry about getting done with school and finding a job
2006-09-12 11:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by Tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, wait til you are above 25 before talking about marriage. I sense that he is not the homely type and he is not suitable to be a husband and father.
2006-09-13 04:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you should go with him that nite whever he goes and like do whatever make him want you by doing sumthing crazy like walking downt the streets doing sumthing stupid you knoe and he dont like maybe he not the one think about it is he the one you want to spend the rest of you life with are you really ready for marriage?
2006-09-12 11:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by Babii guh ! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is telling you he is not ready and you cant change him ,listen to what he says and save yourself future heartbreak. He is being honest with you.
2006-09-12 11:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married till you do all those crazy little things you wanna do. With or without him.
2006-09-12 11:40:24 · answer #9 · answered by Mystress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's chickened out. Better that you found out now.
2006-09-12 11:39:07 · answer #10 · answered by luckyaz128 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋