together since we were 12yrs. His home is my home. He's also the father of my kids. How am i supose to leave that? He is my backbone. there is no other. He was incarcerated for defending our oldest. Now What?
2006-09-12 11:09:07 · 12 answers · asked by Lady T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't stay with my mom. But how can i leave him after 8years. My mom only wants my socialservice checks but she don't know I cancelled all that welfare stuff.
2006-09-12 11:47:26 · update #1
DARLIN' If you are 20--and have two kids with this guy------- Don't YOU think it may be time to marry the guy???? Daddies are better than a live in!!! GO FER IT!!!
2006-09-12 11:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel because you are so young. But if your man isn't a good role model for your children then you should have enough respect for them to leave. What type of life does a family have with a mother like you. You need to learn to grow up and stop acting like a child. You are a mother and a woman now and you have to be responsible. Pull up your socks and get a backbone and look forward with your children. Leave the LOSER behind !
2006-09-12 11:14:08 · answer #2 · answered by smorgan1124 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is he ur backbone? he's not even there to support you or the kids in any way! you are totally on your own now, except for visitation right?
I feel that is really the wrong environment for your kids to be in, and the example the father is setting by going to jail is really really bad!
I'm not passing judgement on you or him, however more details are needed about the defending your oldest to get a proper answer.
2006-09-12 11:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by cvs_girl_36 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can answer what to do. i would stay with him through thick and thin. everyone gets lonely in your situation but theres support groups everywere. this sounds like a good mann and im sure what he thought was right to him... be a strong woman and if things work out right then you 2 was for each other .best of luck to you!!!
2006-09-12 11:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by rocs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I am not saying ditch him because I don't fully understand what happened but you are now the sole provider and that should be your main focus-not him. The kids need you.
2006-09-12 11:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by anjelahoy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No insurance on the house fire? There are alot of programs you can check out to get help with your food and shelter, or maybe a friend can help you. Good luck and god bless.
2006-09-12 11:11:57 · answer #6 · answered by david r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start being the backbone of your family and leave your loser spouse behind.
2006-09-12 11:10:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is about loyalty. Remember the part "til death do us part"? If he is still loyal and loving to you then there are no grounds for divorce. What would that say to your child?
2006-09-12 11:12:31 · answer #8 · answered by eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already know what to do and what you want to do - stay with him. So go on with life and be there for him and be his partner.
2006-09-12 11:11:15 · answer #9 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought you said you live with your Mom. So how can his home be your home? I don't know what to tell you.
2006-09-12 11:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋