my husbend always disappence for days. he tells me this crazy storys. which i don't believe. this month alone he been gone 6 nights. frist 3 days in roll came home for 2 and left again. now is been 3 nights again. i get know phone call friends family don't here from him either . i know it's another women because last year he had affair. i asked to leave he said know hes going no where. and that i'm he's wife and am suppose to take him back he refuses to go. so i went out had fun enjoyed myself and did'nt come home one night. and i want him to leave the house. i want my freedom. and i can't afford to move. but i don't want him to leave forever.
2006-09-12 11:01:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am making an assumption by your grammar because it has an accent (didn't know that was possible before now)......
Call the Customs and Border Patrol (you know... La Migra) on him... He will only be gone long enough to sneak back across the border.
2006-09-12 12:08:06 · answer #1 · answered by BORED AT WORK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You SHOULD want him to leave forever! Don't let him be walking all over you. You aren't a door mat!!! Stand up to him and tell him that he needs to get counseling. If he doesn't go-then he's out. Totally. You need to get some counseling too.
You are worth more than this scumbag. You need to understand that it's not fair to be treated this way. You're being codependant. Why would he change if you don't make an ultimatum?
Decide right now if this is how you want your relationship. If the answer is HELL NO! Then change it. It's up to you. If he won't change-tell him BYE BYE.
Get a man that will treat you right. Amen.
2006-09-12 18:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just separate for a while but don't move out and go on with your life but if you don't want him gone forever then don't divorce him.Change up you routine a little go out if you don't club try bingo. Do things to make him wonder what is going on and why are you not tripping off of him. I'm telling you he will notice the Chang and want to stay home to make sure there's no other man taking his woman.
2006-09-12 18:08:08 · answer #3 · answered by marrissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not say if you have children, how old they are and how long you have been married. How can you get an intelligent answer if you do not supply needed information in order to reply. First of all, I don't think any of these are good excuses to NOT get out of a worthless marriage. Just go get yourself an attorney who can advice you as to your legal rights. There are pro-bono(free) through the county or your state's Bar Association of Lawyers who can lead you to one. Also, if you think that your life is in danger, you can go to the State Attorneys Office, the division for abused women whose lives are in danger(remember mental abuse also counts) and get a restraining order against him. If he breaks this order, in he goes, to jail.
The best thing you can do is to get rid of this loser. His attitude clearly shows that he does not respect you or love you. If you have children this is the worst example you can give them. Fill yourself with self respect, love and dignity and say NO MORE You also may have family or friends who can help you through this
Also, your question to leave alone but not forever? I think you need counseling. If you are being abused and taken advantage of but you still think that leaving you alone for while and then coming back is going to help you, then I have news for you. YOU'RE THE ONE WITH THE PROBLEM. Open your eyes and see that you are in a LOSE LOSE SITUATION.
2006-09-12 18:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by Sylvia P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is kinda confusing, he stays out all night sometimes 3 night's in a row and he rufuses to leave. I personally would not put up with my man especially my husband. I don't know what to tell ya, if you guys aint happy you need to go your own way so you can be happy. I think he is cheating if he is gone 3 nights a week. You can go out and have fun forget about him leave him. I dont think he cares about you if he dont come home for 3 nights. I think you should leave him if u think about cheating to because 2 wrongs dont make a right. do what is best for you. If you love him i guess u have no choice but to put up with his ****. god bless that u leave his ***
2006-09-12 18:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by Deshawn & Keshawn's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want him gone forever, it is going to be hard to kick him out until you are through with your fun. If you did decide for him to leave you alone all together, then you would call the law and get him out of there.
2006-09-12 18:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by pits_me1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check marriage records, he could be a bigamist. How can you put up with this? If you don't have children, think seriously about a divorce, since he's done this before. Staying out completely is staying overnight at someone else's house. What about the holidays? FIshy, fishy, fishy
2006-09-12 18:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by watergirl54 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide what you want? Can you accept this behavior without feeling bitter and angry? Is the marriage worth saving? Did you go out and have fun to spite him and try to make him jealous? Are there children involved? What if children become involved? Can you trust him? Is he willing to make an effort and stop his nonsense. Do you think he uses condoms? Do you deserve better? What can you do to be more independant? What would you like to happen and what do you think will happen? Please quiet yourself and reflect on yourself. Do what is right for you........Good Luck!
2006-09-12 18:06:52 · answer #8 · answered by Sophia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.. 1 of 2 things either stop drinking before u start typing.. or go take some English classes.. geeze..
2006-09-12 18:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mean you want him to wake up and realize what he has and then do the right thing, right?
No magic wand is gonna make him into a good husband. its obvious he wants to play. Move on with your life and do your own playing.
2006-09-12 18:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋