Its disturbing how many you see on these boards always wondering if they are pregnant or not. Don't they teach about abstinence and contraception in schools anymore? Where are the parents?? Its really sad. I'm definately going to raise my kids to be smarter than that!
2006-09-12 10:56:04 · 20 answers · asked by Momof2 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
that always has gone on. actually, the trend in the US is for people to have kids later ... and to have fewer of them.
2006-09-12 10:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by Jim 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is the problem their parents dont show them or let them see the effects it has on young lives and the fact that they have to give themselves up to their children. they cant hang out with friends and party all the time. I know that it may be a stage in 17 and 18 year olds lives they think they are grown up and can make grown up decisions and they think they are ready but once the baby comes it all goes to heck. But there are also some kids who are able to take on the resposibility. Who knows like you said, I am going to teach and show my children what happens when you have children and have sex early on in life. i was 21 when I had my son and I felt I was too young.
2006-09-12 18:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by fleur_loser 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Teen age girls are programed at a very young age to want to be cool and have a boyfriend. Also, young teen girls are often quite lonely and starved for attention. They belive that if they have a boyfriend then they won't be alone....those who get a boyfriend feel they have to put out inorder to keep him happy or not lose him...those who believe they are in a relationship - when actually he is taking advantage of her- put out in an effort to get the guy to like her.... most of the time theyt are doing this through the eyed of a teen and not an adult. That is what makes them so vulnerable.
2006-09-12 18:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by jachooz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents are lazy and just don't care. It is the "in" thing to do now! And teens are weak minded! It is sad and I am with you! My kids will be taught that sex before marriage is wrong and not needed! Sex is a beautiful act between a man and a woman who are married.
2006-09-12 18:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And THAT'S the problem: parents are NOT sitting down with their children at 10 years old- and explaining to them what sex IS, what it MEANS, how it FEELS, and WHY they should wait until they're older- to have it. Most parents just don't have THAT level of comfort with the subject of sex- OR with their kids- to talk about it that way. Comfort & communication with your children is IMPERATIVE -if you want to be able to have an impact upon their sexual choices. Just handing a kid a book on the subject- just isn't gonna cut it! So if you REALLY want your kids to be "smart" on the subject of sex, talk WITH them about it- keep an open dialogue, give them information (without lectures), -and tell them you love them... -Because ultimately, that's what sex is REALLY all about. Good luck! :)
2006-09-12 18:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is good that you will teach your kids "to be smarter". but always remember, you can never say what your kid won't do when you are not around. You just hope that you enstill good morals and trust that they will make the right choices. I grew up in a good christian family and my mother "raised me to be smarter" but I made the decision to have sex before marriage.
2006-09-12 18:07:46 · answer #6 · answered by CHOCOLATE_SCORP 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They're having sex because sex is great fun.
As for why aren't they being taught about contraception? Beats me. It's absolutely insane. Could it be because the abstinence movement in America tries to keep contraceptive information from schoolchildren on the grounds that "it will encourage them to have sex"?
Did you ever try banning hormones from school?
2006-09-12 18:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by Bad Liberal 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah,but just because it is taught doesn't mean they listen.In fact whenever you tell them not to do something they become more curious about it.The media a society is also to blame.They do it because they see it in the movies on television,hear about sex on the radio and in videos and they think its "cool' to have sex randomly,and without contraceptives.they won't believe that they can and will become infected with something until it is too late.The parents are either too afraid to talk to their children about sex,are making the assumption that they know not to do it,or are just busy working and have no time to baby sit teens.Maybe the parents have taought them,but they chose to listen to their peers in order to 'fit in".Who knows? I pray to high heaven that my daughter will listen and take heed to my advice about sex.Either way I will insure that she is well informed of the risk because that is my job.What she does with the information is out of my hands,but I can assure you that I will do everything humanly possible to get through to her that there are real risk in being sexually active,and that some can have lifelong affects.
2006-09-12 18:10:09 · answer #8 · answered by girlqueen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you see that it is a lot due to the parents. I'm a teen and I intend to wait for the right person before I have sex, even though I'm over the legal age of consent (in england anyway!) and I think this is because I have always been brought up by my parents to think this.
2006-09-12 18:00:06 · answer #9 · answered by Queenie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They are bored and have nothing to do. The "family" has unraveled and everyone is on their own. Parents are so rapped up in their own problems they are not seeing that their kids are searching for love and acceptance. Bad thing is it's with each other and then we have all these babies. Education needs to begin at home along with love and compassion.
2006-09-12 18:00:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
woa, what wrong with sex? Please don't raise someone to be afraid of sex, its one of the most wonderful things we have. Telling them that they should abstain from it is only going to twist their relationship to it.
The most promiscous people I went to high school with were raised by really conservative parents who told them to wait untill they found their soul mate and got married to them. My parents are really liberal and I wasn't promiscuous and am now happily married.
Contraception is a must however, you should definetely tell them all you can about that, and make sure they have it available to them at home, kids can be too afraid to go out and buy it themselves. Seirously, my mother bought us condoms and came home one day and said: ''ok, I bought you guys condoms, if you need them they're in the cupboard in the bathroom''. I was 14 and my brother was 16. Honestly, don't be uptight about it.
2006-09-12 18:08:36 · answer #11 · answered by Hans B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋