For whatever reasons- you're taken, they're taken, but you have feelings for one another- what did you do?
2006-09-12 10:30:07 · 18 answers · asked by ninja_girl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes! Most folks have gone through that at one point or another and like most of the answers so far- you just have to move on. Among the many pains the heart can recieve that ranks up near the top.
It might be because that person is so close to being your ideal and you theirs that when you turn away it hurts so much-but have heart, there is another someone out there that is single and looking just for you.
2006-09-12 10:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That can always be tough on ones partner,,,but think about it long and hard, 9 times out of 10 these feelings are nothing but feelings and sometimes pass as fast as they came, sometimes when you get together with this person it doesn't live up to your expectations, so you could be giving up a good partner for a flash in the pan romance, but its really up to you some people act on there feelings and you never know you could be passing up the love of your life we just never know that's why so many people have broken hearts, remember in a relationship one person always loves more.
2006-09-12 10:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends. If it was a girlfriend of my friend and I really liked her and wanted to be with her I would consider letting her know how I felt. On the other hand, if I were married, the other person was married or I had an inclination that having a relationship with this person would cause significant turmoil in my life, I would think it less painful to just not get involved.
I have been in this situation on two previous occasions.
First, I was very attracted to a woman I knew socially, I also knew she had a boyfriend. We became very close, fell in love, she left her boyfriend and we got married.
Second, I was feeling very attracted to a sexy woman who was very attentive and flirtatious- I wanted to be with her. However, my decision would have caused significant trauma to my life, trauma that I wasn't willing to endure. Now, I just avoid this person and have focused on making my relationship stronger.
Trust your instincts!
2006-09-12 10:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by AZLUV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were friends for years. We ended up in bed and it was fantastic, mind blowing sex for both of us. We couldn't stop, many times I played hooky from work just to spend the day making love . I loved her before we made love and after the fireworks I was hopeless.
She gave me the most wonderful birthday of my life.
Several days later we had a long lovely talk on the phone and she explained why she couldn't marry me. (our 14 yr age difference is a big one)
After I hung up and it sank in, it rocked me to the core, it hurt, and I got mad. When I awoke the next morning I was still hurting and then it hit me, she is right, she can't marry me, that rocked me again.
But she is right, I have to wish her the best of luck and let my dreams of marriage die.
Nobody said life was fair. sometimes you just have to take the hit, take a deep breath, and move out smartly!
We plan to talk again in 3 months. She was a good friend before and I hope we can keep that going.
Time will tell
2006-09-12 10:51:27 · answer #4 · answered by Freddy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met a guy online -- talked continuously for 4 days, I made some "smart' comment - he left me hanging for 5 more days. Came back in town 1 mo later - hot and heavy conversation then left. Came back the next month - met him, kissed, he vanished -- it has now been 3 excruciating months -- I am getting over him but it is soooo hard -- being unresolved like this
2006-09-12 10:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by Freya T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in this situation recently and we both broke it off with the person that we were with and went for each other... Big mistake... We created so much drama and hard feelings, and we both still kinda like the person that we used to be with.. The relationship just wasnt right... So we broke it off.. We are still really good friends...
2006-09-12 10:35:19 · answer #6 · answered by Jenni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yah of course its not very fun at all, but you have to deal with it. I mean you can try your hardest to get them to like you , but if you cant or its impossible, you just have to move on, dont worry there are plenty of fish in the sea!
2006-09-12 10:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. A married coworker. I just stuffed my feelings deep deep deep down inside and ignored her and treated her poorly and kept stuffing it down deeper and deeper.
Life isn't fair.
2006-09-12 10:32:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes......he was separated at the time we met and then dated for 2 years until his wife said she was pregnant and he went back to her.
2006-09-12 10:32:09 · answer #9 · answered by shirley e 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop the old and get in with the new!
2006-09-12 10:32:35 · answer #10 · answered by Zephyr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋