okay...im in such a bad situation that its all i can think about. please be gentle when answering this because im really lovesick. okay, my boyfriend and i have been in a loving and caring relationship for about 6 months. he found out that i pecked (a quick kiss) another guy and he was really mad. we tried to make it work for about 3 weeks. eventually after the 3 weeks, we broke up for good. ive tried EVERYTHING to show him that we are meant to be together and he is not tryna hear it, he says that we wont get back together. its been about a week w/o him and i dont know what to do b/c im so sad and lonely. we still do tell each other that we love each other and we kiss on occasion. please give me some tips on how to get him back. i love him with all my heart and i made a big mistake!! please yall, let me know if you think there is any hope and if so, please tell me what to do to get our relationship back b/c i love him so very much ....thanks
2006-09-12 10:27:04 · 7 answers · asked by porkydd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hello
first of all, i feel your pain and i am sorry you feel so low. your boyfriend is also feeling as bad as you. is confidence and self esteem has taken a knock, unlike women, they take it really bad!!! personally, i dont believe it is over for good, or he wouldnt be telling you he loved you or kissing you, i just think its going to take a bit of time to get his trust back. to make a guy feel good about himself you must put him on a pedestal and treat him like the hero and protector like all guys want, play the vulnerable little woman. but be honest with him, you are vulnerable without him, arent you? just treat him like the god he is in your eyes and dont give up, it will take time, if it was just a peck and nothing more your boyfriend has insecurity problems, that you cant be totally blamed for, but he has to realise if you didnt want him and him alone, you would be off, you just have to show him that. good luck i hope everything works out for you two.
2006-09-12 10:39:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are built on trust. Loving him is not enough if he see's it as not trust worthy. First you have to gain his trust back by proving to him that he is the one you love. You do that by being slow and easy. Don't put out just because you are upset. You need to respect each others choices and get to know each other all over. Ask him to talk about what you did and how it made him feel - not how it made him react. Tell him you want to prove to him that you can be trusted and ask him if the TWO of you can work on that. Then go to the next level and so on. If he plays the bad *** and says sarcastic things to and about you then he isn't worth the effort and move on. 6 months may seem like a long time but love is measured in years and memories not days and months......
2006-09-12 18:15:18 · answer #2 · answered by bobopro1020 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have done as much as you can do. Maybe your boyfriend is very angry and needs time to get over this little hiccup. If he keeps saying that he does not want to get back together, you will have to chose a time when you draw a line under trying to get back with him and move on with some dignity and self respect. Don't give away too much of yourself in the fight to get him back. Maybe he is refusing to get back as he feels he needs a little time and will come back to you in a few weeks when he knows what he wants from the relationship in the future.
2006-09-12 17:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is still talking and kissing you, so I think it should be a matter of time before he comes around. However, if it was just a peck on the cheek - like doing you a favor - he needs to get over himself. Be careful of getting tied up with a guy that wants to keep you entirely under his thumb.
2006-09-12 17:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow a peck!
He sure chose an easy 'get out' didn't he?
He obviously wasn't that into you as you thought.
I am so sorry for you, heartache is a real ***** at times.
Hope you feel better soon.
2006-09-12 17:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by Lorraine R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awe babe. im at a worser point than you. ive been actually dumped for another gurl =[[ its ok hunny. u will actually be ok later this week i promise you. i mean weve been going out for 10 months. and in allready a week im kind of ok with out him. and i know that if its meant to be it will return. but untill then . never ever look back.
2006-09-12 17:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by ily_______&?; 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to remain close is about all you can do. He no longer trusts you and the only thing that will help him with that is time. Dont push it, that will only get him defensive and he will back off.
2006-09-12 17:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋