I'm so scared what he might think of me afterwards I don't wan thim to be mad at me or look at me like i'm crazy. I lov ehim with all my heart and I know I have to tell him. But i'm afriad of what his reaction might be.
2006-09-12 10:12:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Serious answers only! None citing religious verses and preaching to me!
2006-09-12 10:13:03 · update #1
I think you shoud go ahead and tell him. Most men love that thought and will eat it up. It is more accepted with women then men, next he will be wanting to sit back and watch you and another chick. mark my word
2006-09-12 10:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by Brad B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think about this issue some more. Some people today think its cool to be bi and therefore give bis a bad rap. Aside from that, it really should be something you feel strongly about. If you do, then you need to be open about it. He's going to be curious to your revelation and armed with lots of questions, be ready to answer, be ready to be stumped too for an answer. Some folks think bisexuals are promiscuous and that is not always the case, we just know exactly what we want, its nothing with bi-confused as some say. Simply we like both. But you have to be open and honest with all involved, ready and willing to compromise some because if you do go and do become bi, you have two people's feelings and all to deal with as well as your own. It can be russian roulette and hit or miss with dealing with how others view this. But seriously think it over, make sure you really are curious first. I might suggest letting it either develope into either a need first or just it was a passing fancy. If its a passing fancy, let it go. If on the otherhand, it becomes a real need to find out, then move forward and tell him. Good luck!
2006-09-12 18:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by midnightdealer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to act on this? Are you interested in seeing someone else?
A lot of this depends on where you want to go with your bicuriosity. It's very, very natural (I'm happily married, and although I've never had a homosexual relationship, I find some women very sexy.) But like the fact that I still find other men attractive, I don't act on any of it, nor do I want to in any way out of love and respect for my husband and our life together. If this is something that you feel like you need to do some experimenting with, then maybe you need to think about your relationship with your boyfriend, and whether he's what you really want. Do you want to include another woman in your relationship together? Do you want to see women as well as him? Do you want to play the field for a bit to figure out if he's who you really want to be with? If the answer is any of the above, then you need to come clean with him. If it's just that you're feeling conflicted about finding women attractive, but it's something you'll never do anything about, then that's okay. Personally, I wouldn't worry about talking to him about it- we all find others attractive outside of the love of our life, but sometimes it hurts the ones we love less to keep those feelings to ourselves- especially if nothing ever comes of them anyway.
If you're still feeling a burning need to tell someone you're having these feelings, try a close friend. Someone whose ego has a bit less to lose from the information. And think about why this is bothering you so much- try and do the most fair and kind thing possible for both you and your boyfriend. Even if it's the scary thing.
2006-09-12 17:23:02 · answer #3 · answered by borealtroll 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Start out by asking him about his fantasies. If he doesn't mention 2 women bring it up urself. But then again if ur just curious u might not want him involved in the 1st experience. I know I didn't. There really is only one answer. Get it over with. If he can't accept it he's not worth it. You can't go on forever wondering "what if?".
2006-09-12 20:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by 2crooked 2b straight 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is going to be seriously impressed, because the first thing that is going to cross his male mind is the thought of having you and another female in bed, so maybe you ought to go with that thought first of all. I you are happy with that no problem. If you are not keen on the menage a trois that might then be a problem.
2006-09-12 17:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by kelly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy in relationships. You may be scared, but think of it this way... if he can't accept the unique person that you are, maybe he isn't the one for you.
I know it is scary to be rejected. We all, as humans, fear rejection. If he can accept you for all the wonderful things that make you...well "you" he is DEFINITELY a keeper. Good luck!
2006-09-12 17:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by Elkie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him. He might like the idea....if he really cared about u, he would respect your feelings about this. Just talk it over with him and see what he thinks, if he likes it go for it, if not, go with your heart and try new things. U might learn to like what you choose!
2006-09-12 17:26:37 · answer #7 · answered by lovelyasarose2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is it just a fantasy or somthing gonna last for long time if it is just a fantasy don't say anything for him but if you think it' s somthing will stay and you gonna continue feel this way towrds the same sex then you need to open up with him
2006-09-12 17:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by erotic_cub 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just come right out and tell him.just sit him down and just explain
it to him.and if you need someoone 2 talk 2 then contact me.and
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2006-09-12 17:31:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could start talking tohim about fantasies - that is a common one for straight men. It will come up.
2006-09-12 17:14:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋