she had gastric bypass surgery to lose weight after our kids were born she balloned to 260.she had the surgery and was flirting and getting guys attention but what gives shes still alone. how can i make her realize what we had.i'll try anything spells or another option.i need her back.i love her unconditional.i know deep down she still loves me.
2006-09-12 09:50:13 · 14 answers · asked by Rob C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she thinks she better but she is not involed with anyone.but if she does what one of you said and gets ****** over i can't take her back if she was with someone in that way.had sexual relations.
2006-09-12 10:08:06 · update #1
enogh with ask god i allready ask begged him broke down and cried in front of many people at church were is he.my faith is all most gone.and yes my self esteem is low.she looks like a million bucks.HOTT! and she doesn't want me.how i'm i suppose to feel.
2006-09-12 10:20:06 · update #2
I know several women who have had the fat surgery and lost weight and no look amazing 75% of them left their husbands because they thought they could do better since they were better looking.
Most of them realized that looks arent everything and that most of the men they met and went out with after they left their husband were only into their looks and sex.
Most ended up coming home after they found out that the grass on the other side isnt greener.
Let her have her space but make sure she knows you still love her and want her back.
She'll come home.
2006-09-12 09:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is, she chose to be alone, rather than be with you. Trying to convince her to stay, or cast spells on her, is self-serving of you, and not at all loving. Your "I need her back" comment is kind of creepy. What about what *she* needs? I don't read any apologies or remorse on your part and that seems very vain. It's all about you and your needs. Maybe she's ready to take care of herself now. I think your definition of "what we had" is very different from hers. Usually, at the root of massive weight gain is anger and self-hatred. The weight gain is a defense against something that hurt her. There are major factors for her to deal with, so you need to give her some space.
You can't take her back if she tries another relationship, but you "LOVE HER UNCONDITIONALLY"? You better decide what you are. What exactly *would* she be coming back to? Please read the irony of your own question and statment.
Addition: Dude, What the F!@%? I read another one of your questions. You're after another man's wife at the same time you wrote this?! You're a lost puppy. No wonder she left. You mistreated her. Good for her! Rock on, ex-Mrs. Rob C!
2006-09-12 17:02:23 · answer #2 · answered by georgia b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very sad story. Sounds like she lost the weight and felt she needed to move on. For what reason, I don't know. Tell her how you feel. Really express your love for her like you did here. Ask her why she left and how things can be fixed between the two of you. I hope the case is not that she thinks she is better than you now cause she lost weight. That could backfire on her. There's always the chance of gaining the weight back. Good luck, my heart goes out to you.
2006-09-12 16:57:47 · answer #3 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you said she, wanted the separation, this may be hard for you to except, but she may find, that she wants her freedom. At this point in her Life, no matter what you do, it is not going to make any difference. you have to give her the space she is asking for, in the mean time get your self together, and take care of you, And as far as spells is concern, I say try God, that I know works.
2006-09-12 17:03:11 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to put it to you straight because I think you can handle it. The reality is that you can't "make her" realize anything, You can only work on yourself. Is it love, or is it attachment? Attachment tries to "make" the other be what we want them to be. That's power, not love. Love builds, power destroys. Love YOURSELF enough to let go. Just let go and be the best YOU that you can be. It sounds like your self-esteem is on the ground right now. You deserve to be treated better. You deserve a woman who will love you in return. But you can't find THAT woman until you let go of your wife. If it really was love, she'll be back, and will treat you as you deserve to be treated. Until then, let her go, move on, you can do better.
2006-09-12 17:14:19 · answer #5 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry, but shes gonna have to realize what she had all on her own. Losing weight can be very liberating, especially if a person has been big for a long time. Hopefully, she will come to her senses soon.
2006-09-12 16:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just give her time. It is a big change when you lose alot of weight and you start to get noticed. When men start to compliment you and it makes you feel alive. Let here know you are there for her. Good luck.
2006-09-12 16:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Spells"? Man, you need to quit watching "Bewitched" reruns and get out and get that woman some FLOWERS! Are you still married but living apart? Call her up for a date, and be persistent about it. Get a hair cut, some new threads, and be the man she deserves so she flirts ... and goes home ... with you. GET 'ER DONE!!!
2006-09-12 16:54:01 · answer #8 · answered by Tad Dubious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force someone to love you. her weight lose may have nothing to do with it, or even other men.
2006-09-12 17:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sad, I feel for you man, there really is nothing you can do, but it does sound like you got rid of a big headache
2006-09-12 17:24:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋