I'm pregnant and I'm fifteen. No Joke. I'm serious. My boyfriend doesn't want to take responsibility of the kids (actually, he ditched me after he found out I was pregnant). I'm pregnant with twin girls. I'm due in January. Can anyone help me on what to say to him? This is no joke and I would appreciate it if anyone would give me advice.
2006-09-12 09:48:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
the father is almost 18
2006-09-12 14:48:26 · update #1
well he can not give up the responsibilites of being a father...he will have to help u financially. He ditched you because hes a coward. Let him know that you would like his help through this and that your not saying marry me or anything just that you need him to be their father and your support and see where things go from there. Unfortunately many guys would do this but hopefully he will stand up and be a man. I hope you have other supprt because you will need it especially with twins..Congrats! Hope all goes well for you. Keep your head up...your kids will be more important then him he if doesn't stick around.
2006-09-12 09:53:53 · answer #1 · answered by mommy of 1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very sad. Is he 18 or over? If so have him put in jail and pay you child support the rest of his life, if he works. If he is under 18 unless he is forced to support your daughters the law my be exempt to him. you are a great example of why children should not have sex, I started when i was 13 but knew well enough not to get a girl pregnant. Hope you have understanding and stable parents to help you through this, you need to find a real man! I dont believe in abortion even though Im not republican, and adoption is OK but I could never give up my blood offspring. You need to start setting up some services with your county and state agencies and get prepared to take care of these girls somehow. You are 3 years away from being able to work a full-time job legit so start seeing what services will be availible to you and your daughters. You can tell him he needs to be a father and support them but many woman have done and said this with little or no results, do not expect him to help in anyway other than forced support payments, and this only helps if he is working. Good Luck.
2006-09-12 10:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by Later Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there's not much you CAN say to him that's going to change his mind hon.
When you choose to have sex at 15 you have to realize that a 15 year old boy is just that, a BOY. He's not ready to get married or pay child support or be a father. He's not even grown up yet.
If he knows and he's already said he doesnt care, well, I guess you know the answer.
If you want to get your parents involved, you could have them call his parents and at least let them know. They may not do anything either. Especially if your now ex boyfriend denies ever having sex with you.
At this point all you can do is get the court order to try for child support.
2006-09-12 10:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to say anything.... you need to get your butt to court to have a child support order in place for when the little dumplings arrive. And I would do that right away. If he wants to play he's gotta pay. And if he doesn't want to have anything to do with them I wouldn't try to push the matter, they're better off without such a coward in their life. Have you thought about adoption? I don't want to sound mean but there are alot of couples that would love to raise your babies, your only 15 and twins!!! I had my first at 16 and let me tell you I love my daughter but I could have given her a much better life had I waited. It was rough I had help from my parents but I still had NO life at all, all my friends were going out and dating and I couldn't even go to taco bell with them cuz I was so freaking broke. Anyway you have ALOT to think about....Good luck
2006-09-12 10:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by skhoury28nails 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably just scared right now, and maybe if you can give him some time he will come around. An unexpected pregnancy is hard enough, but twins must be extra stressful for the both of you.
Try to join a group of other pregnant young women for support, and take good care of yourself.
2006-09-12 10:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by sheila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... it's your choice what to do. serve him with child support papers (he could make a stink and say the babies aren't his, be prepared to do a DNA test) or you could forget about him. Obviously he's the biggest jerk around to ditch off his own children. But the sad thing is that he may be too young to understand what's going on. Now it doesn't matter what your age is, if your going to keep the babies, be the best mother possible, no matter what. AND!! make sure that the father is going to be in the childrens future, even if it's just financial support. Hang tough, you'll do fine.
2006-09-12 10:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what the hell is a fifteen yr. old haveing sex for anyways? You are learning lifes little lessons way too early. maybe you should have used your head instead and planned for the future. there were ways around this whole situation. I hope your family will help you out, but if not(and yes,rejection from parents happends)you can go to a women and childrens advicate program. you can find these listings in the phone book under government pages. they provide a house, job and help with the babies. good luck to you.
2006-09-12 09:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by Brittney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything to him. Have him served with child support papers. Some state like PA if child support is recieved then the father has the right to see his kids. Take advantage of that since you'll be needing a job to support your little girls.
2006-09-12 09:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just get support for the kids and stop trying to force him to be a father u cant make him love u or the kids. He will wont to come around when he sees how beautiful those babies are and then u try to work it out until then leave him alone and focus on u and the babies because u are all they have now.
2006-09-12 09:56:25 · answer #9 · answered by nee16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the only thing you can do is go to the D.A. and get child support but if he is the same age as you, and depending on what state you leave in, he cannot get a job until he is 16yrs. Or you can tell he's parents and see if they will share the responsibilities of helping you out. Children are a big responsibility, so don't expect to him to help you out. You are going to have to learn to count on yourself. You may want to find a support group for single parents and see what they may offer. Well good luck sweetheart.
2006-09-12 09:59:58 · answer #10 · answered by Brezzy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋