For lesbians, what made you decided to turn gay?

Question

Were you scorned by a man? Do you feel you were born that way? Only intelligent responses, please.

WOW! I see why people are against homosexuals. D amn, i can ask a question without someone ridiculing me. All the sarcasm isn't really necessary, folks.

Answer 1

I would have to say I was born this way. As a child (8 yrs old) I felt an attraction to women/girls, however at that age a child dose not know what they want, but I knew I felt this way. Growing up I dated boy, and when I got older men...I still had this attraction for women. Now let me explain something to you, altho I had this attraction for women I NEVER met a woman that I liked, that made me feel all nervous or should I say I never felt that special something.Sure I met women that I thought were attractive, but I was not arrtacted to them. I had an experience in college (had a good time) but left it there. When I was twenty-three after college I married a young man I had dated for the last three years, I still felt the same way mind you, but I did not want to disappoint my family, so I left the thoughts behind. I can now look back and know why I never felt whole in a relationship. After six years of marrage and a beautiful child, I gave up the marriage, and my child and I moved on. She has a great dad, and we split our time with her, she is with him three nights a week. A year later, while out with my brother I saw this woman, and could not even speak. (We have a joke about it, because she said I was stuck-up, but I was really dumb struck) I NEVER felt this was about any person I have ever met, or delt with. I DIDN'T SEE HER AGAIN UNTILL A YEAR LATER, and we finally spoke, talked a few times and the next thing you know we have not been apart for the last three years. We are in a comitted relationship, we live together, we are a family. I know you did not ask for all of that, but I guess my point is that this is me, for years I did not act on my feelings for various reasons, do I regret it ,NO, because now I am sure that this is me and not just a scorned woman, or just someone that has no respect for sex or relationships. I am sorry you got some nasty feed back, all people are not that way. Now here is what has me puzzled, several men answered your question, and I was just wondering...why?

Answer 2

I checked your history and didn't find a history of bashing, so I think you're legit. Unfortunately this is a question that gets asked a lot by people bashing and spamming the LGBT area, so this question tends to rub many the wrong way, especially when it's worded thiss way.

We don't actually just wake up one morning and decide to go gal. While some of us go through the straight motions and then realize that they prefer women over men, many just be themselves. They may start by kissing a female friend instead of a boy in grade school or something and just stick with dating women. Some don't realize their attractions until they mature sexually and start to develop romantic interests. This may be at 12 or at 25. As I started to hit puberty and high school at about 12 I realized my sexuality and my gender identity.

Answer 3

I used to wonder why I never liked any guys, then one day I met this great woman that I fell in love with. It all made since then. I was not scorned by any man. I had crushes on girls since the first grade, but I just didn't label myself a lesbian until I fell in love with a woman.

Answer 4

Homosexuality is a natural occurance happening all across the animal kingdom and even in the insect world. God made some of us this way just as he made some of us black and some of us white and some of us with green eyes and some of us......well you get the picture. The sarcastic remarks come from those who are tired of this question which we get asked 8 times a day in many different ways.

Answer 5

If lesbians decided to turn gay that would mean they'd like men. Which is impossible for them to do. Lesbians have never been attracted to men, Lesbians are women who only have an attraction to other women. No matter if a lesbian woman put herself in a relationship with a man. She's still a lesbian but just in a heterosexual relationship. A lesbian woman would be with her natural GOD given sexual orietation if she decided to be with women, it's what turns her on and makes her happy and she didn't choose to have those feelings and attraction.

Answer 6

Yes, I decided one fine morning that "hey! I want to be terrorized, abused and harassed by people, so I will be lesbian"

Sorry bro..you had it coming!

Anyway, no I was never scorned by a man. (sorry to burst your bubble on that one) I think it was something deep inside of me, much like my spiritual beliefs. You might not realize what is "right" for you at first, but eventually you do, and dear friend, when you realize what is "natural" for you, it is SO liberating!

Answer 7

aight well don't think that all homosexuals are the same way...we just don't like being put out there to be judged by, no one likes that..so yeah...well some women believe that they were born this way...while straights think that it's genetic, or that they were hurt emotionally or physically by a man...i believe that we were born like this...i mean...God has put us here for a reason..and He's obviously known that we would be gay since He has plans...so...sorry for all the negativity you've gotten, next time try and re-word your question, b/c you'd hate it if someone came up to you and was like "why are you straight?!?!"

Answer 8

I'm not a Lesbian but, I seriously don't think it's something you turn on and off like a Light switch my friend. I believe your born that way.

Answer 9

You ask a question like this and then have the nerve to only ask for intelligent responses? ROFLMFAO

Answer 10

no, I was never "scorned" by a man, because I was born lesbian. I've never been attracted to them and never dated any (I don't hate men, either...just not attracted to them). no one "turns" gay/lesbian/bi....it's genetic.