What Do I Do With Myself??

Question

I became a mom at 17 and did child care while my son was growing up to stay home with him. Now my kids are in school and I don't have any true skills. I am going crazy and need to find fulfilling employment but nobody is going to hire me except some fast food place. I have life skills, I am 29 but that is it, I don't have time or money for school. I feel so lost and confused. I was such a good mom and now that I don;t have that I am empty. Any advice for me, anyone wan to hire me????

Answer 1

try starting your own small Internet business

Answer 2

Being a mom in itself is a full time job. As for skills, well think of all the organizing you've had to do with the family. Running a household is management skill. School, recreational, sports,meals,listening,understanding,teaching,guiding,nursing and many more. Opportunities are there for you to use you life skills and home managment skills, take online classes, use the library as a source of education. Call unemployment, they sometimes have classes, high schools offer adult education classes in the evening. I've taken some of those myself and enjoyed meeting people of all ages, plus I learned something new. You say you were a good mom, your still a good mom! This the time for you to establish another idenity besides being a mom. Think back of things that you've been interested in doing but didn't have the time because you were raising the children.
This is a time to grow,explore,and foreful those dreams. You know... the more you enrich yourself the more interestanding you become. My children are adults with lives of their own but they love to hear about the things I'm doing, because I'm always trying out new things. I just started a new career...I own a home based business, and they think it's great and I'm old enough to be your grandmother. Never give into doubt, always think of how you can apply yourself...what can I do,try,learn,play make it fun. Life is an adventure...it's open to new paths each and every day. Be the explorer, discover your life. Once you have you'll never stop and that void (emptiness)you feel will be filled. Take a step...
Take care,
Agatha Perrin
Stayin Home and Lovin It
www.homestoday.topratebiz.com

Answer 3

I "wan" hire you...no seriously, I hope you don't make those type of mistakes on your resume, an employer will crack down hard! On your resume make sure you list being a mother and homemaker for x amt of years. I have seen plenty of jobs take that into consideration for 'customer service' etc. Check out a daycare, restaurants (waitress, hostess), also check out the labor service in your local town...you can pickup skills quick there, get paid, and move on if you don't like what you get stuck in. Remember no matter how old you have to work your way up and start somewhere! Try places like blockbuster (I am sure with kids you have seen a lot of movies) or even the grocery stores. Those are not fast food...and don't require a lot of skills. You will learn as you go along! Good luck

Answer 4

I didn't have any experience either other than in food service. (and I'm 29, too!). After my son was born I went to Kelly Services. They got me into a secretary/receptionist position in 4 days. The woman that I worked with said that they got me placed so quickly because of the way I dressed when I went to my appointment with them and because I took and passed some computer-skills tests that they'll give you in their office.

So my advice is to call your local Kelly Services and "dress for the job you want" , like slacks and a nice shirt (you'd be amazed what some people wear). You'll have to make an appointment, so when you do go, allow for atleast 3 hours. While you're there they actually hire you as an employee of theirs. Bring your resume, SS card, and DL. If you have any computer experience at all, take the proficiency tests they offer for programs like Excel and Work. There is a tutorial before each test which I recommend. If you pass the test your job opportunities will grow. Also, Kelly services does temporary work and temporary to hire. I did the second and landed a great job.
Please e-mail if you want to know anything else.

Answer 5

There are ways to get money for college. If I were you, go to your local JC and make an appoitment with a financial aid counselor and explain it all to them. Sometimes people give up before they try.
If you are married there may be programs through hubby's work or type of employment. If not, that doesn't matter and may allow you o qualify for more. You should be able to get Pell grants, loans etc, that would make it possible for you to only have to work part time.

Get with a counselor before you give up. I was a single Dad at the time my 8 and 6 year old were in school. That is why I know it can be done. Trust me. As an exampl you could be an RN in 3 years making $30, and be LPN after year 2 of that.,

Good luck to you, but have faith and don't give up on yourself too easily.

Answer 6

Work on your attitude. No employer wants to hire someone because they "need" a job, an employer needs the job done. Several people here have suggested continuing education and that is the answer only if you are prepared to put the effort forth. Quit moping and feeling sorry for yourself. Get into action. The first thing an employer will see of you is your attitude. If you have gone back to school or been retrained any employer worth working for will be impressed. When I see someone who has set goals and worked towards achieving them (particularly in adversity ie: single broke mother) I want to help, any employer worth his/her salt does. Quit saying I can't and start saying "how am I going to...." Good luck young lady.

Answer 7

Okay, if you want to go back to school you can so you can get some work skills. Talk with the counselors at the local community colleges and universities. There should be some financial resources for you. Also, check with your local department of labor office. They will also have funds available for those who have been out of the workforce that want to get back in a career field. Remember we all have 24 hours in a day. We make time for the things important for us. You can find the time if that is something you really want to do. And don't diminish the work you did with your children. You have some identifiable work skills. You just need to sit down with someone and find out what they are. Again, go to your local department of labor office and find someone there who will take the time with you and figure it out. Good luck!

Answer 8

When I retired after working 14 and 16 hour days I was at a complete loss, I plucked up courage and went to the local college to see what they could offer.
The result being I now build and repair computers. and have a working knowledge of Clait ie: Word, Excel, Access and Front Page, I can also Touch Type albeit a bit slow.
So get in touch with your local College and see what Part Time or Evening classes they do. Quite a lot are free.

Answer 9

I sympathize with you greatly as, though the circumstances of my life are quite different, I find myself for the most part unemployable. If you are the head of a household and you have bills to pay NOW, then you are going to have to take one, two, or more of those lousy fast food jobs to keep yourself afloat and give you time to come up with a plan.

If you have performed child care when your child was home, you have that experience. Maybe you should look into establishing yourself as a child care service. If that isn't what you want to do, and if flipping burgers is out, then you are going to have to think about what you want to do, what you are willing to do to get that career, and figure out how you are going to do what it takes. In other words, you are probably going to have to either get more education or more training. If you have to take out a loan to get more schooling, so that you can have a better job and a better life, then it is worth it. It is your life, after all. Take care and good luck.

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Answer 11

You are going to have to start at the bottom, like everyone else. I would start with fast food or retail and climb the ladders of the corporation. An education helps cut in line in front of other people in a company, but without a degree you will need to start from point one. Remember that you will need to bust your a$s for little pay, but little by little and with hard work you'll accomplish something.

Also, why not continue day care? you have experience in that. Just ad yourself around town... maybe make part of your house a daycare. It looks like you'd be awesome at something like this.