2006-09-12 09:19:42 · 6 answers · asked by lilhouis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is very simple....women believe that they are victims. When you look at it they have been indoctrinated from very young to believe that fact.
From Dudley Do-right (he had to save the fair Nell) to Hans Solo (he had to save the fair Princess Liea) women have been taught that they ARE VICTIMS!!! Men have equally been taught that they are the RESCUERS! Women have realized that and use the victim thing with regualrity. When they combine the victim status with some reallly good sex they can get a guy to believe almost anything.
When they cheat they extrapolate this victim mentality to rationalize their own actions. "I would have never phucked that guy had it not been for you being a controling ashole" or any combination you want to have they can come up with.
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Good Luck
2006-09-12 09:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Generally the reasons why people are unfaithful rarely have anything to do with physical need. For the most part, men and women do engage in some form of courtship, even when instigating an extra marital affair.
Women can blame men for their infidelity, this is true. Men also blame women for theirs, although it is usually used to get sympathy from their targeted mistress. (ie My wife never wants to make love any more.)
We women are complicated creatures! However, for the most part, if we feel our mate is at least trying to stay connected to us, we are less likely to stray or blame our indiscretions on our spouse.
John Gottman is a great relationship expert that I highly recommend. I recommend him because he really explains the concepts of "bids for attention" in a way that shows how to avoid infidelities and all the other pitfalls in marriage. Check him out.
2006-09-12 16:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by Beth B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's because people who cheat always tries to look for justifications for their reasons to cheat instead of communicating their frustrations with their spouses and working on their marriage. They like to put the blame on their spouses because it "lessens" their guilt.
2006-09-12 16:30:24 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My EXwife blamed me for her three affairs.
I didnt have time for her.
I didnt love her.
I only work.
Been there done that thats why she is my X.
2006-09-12 16:24:13 · answer #4 · answered by the_saint1963 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask the ? again
2006-09-12 16:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WHAT??
2006-09-12 16:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by Surf n' Snow 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋