I am so worried I lost him!?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for more than 2 years but the second half of the relationship we have been in a long distance. I love him very much, I am not interested in any other guy and I care about him deeply. It's not been easy for us as we cannot see each other very often and we have had some arguments and fights. However, we always stayed together. Recently I have been thinking about our situation and I wanted to know some asnwers. I asked him the other day about our relationship and what was his expectations and if he saw me in his future. He said that he has been doubting our relationship as we have had too many arguments and fights and he said he cannot forget them. He said he is not sure and he needs more time. I told him that I was upset with his answer and I told him to make a decision. He said that he needs time to think about us but after a week, I pushed for an answer again. He said that it's not so easy just to decide like this about future and he needs to think

However, I asked him how long does he need and he got upset telling me I am putting a lot of pressure on him. We got into an argument and he said that he will leave if I don't give him the time as he is not sure now because too many problems happened between us. I spoke to him last week and that's when he told me to leave him alone. I gave him an ultimatum though and told to make his mind up in 2 weeks time. He said that it's not the best way to solve this. I have left him alone but now I am really scared that I have lost him and he might not call me back again? Please help

Answer 1

I hate to tell you this, honey, but when a man won't give you an answer, you already have your answer.

Time to adjust yourself to the fact that he's probably gone. Learn from your mistakes with him (and his with you) and try to find someone you get along with better next time.

Every couple argues, but when the relationship is more about arguing than being content together, it's not a good relationship. You need to focus on finding someone with whom you get along, or, if you know you were the one starting the arguments, figure out why that was important to you and learn how not to do that next time.

Good luck to you, dear.

Answer 2

The more you push, the more upset he will be with you. If he said give him time, give the guy some time. FIrst of all, why are you apart? Does he love you? You should go where he is and see him ( unless he's in the military and deployed). Seriously, I understand you don't want your time to be waisted. Don't nag him too much because it will just push him away....

Answer 3

Long distance relationship is and oxymoron.
Its time to put this to rest and move on. Next time when he asks to give him some time try not to put a limit on it unless you like them saying that's it go away.

Answer 4

Of course he's going to be angry as you keep pushing and pushing on him. Instead of giving him an ultimatum, why don't U give yourself a time limit, as far as how long u are going to wait and...stick with it.

Answer 5

Do not push this!!!!! Give him some time and maybe even get some counseling to help "arguments" work easier for you both!!

Answer 6

Sounds like to me that he is already involved in another relationship and is keeping you on the back burner.

Dump him and get on with your life.

Answer 7

Forget him. Hard as it sounds he doesn't really want you. As soon as you say you want to move on, he will either be back or sighing with relief. Either way you need to know.

Answer 8

it means he is going to dump you by not hurting you but he cant so he is buying the time out.

Answer 9

Condense! Way too long.

Answer 10

he's gone!!!!!