my ex fianceee and i broke up due to some problems but he had met someone on the internet and went to meet her [out of state] left me with our 3 babies and no money to care for them for a week and now he is back and says he still cares for me but we will never get back together but he keeps making moves on me??? what should i do im hopeless for an answer so i can move on
2006-09-12 09:08:31 · 27 answers · asked by bleucat1966 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Kick him to the curb NOW, go directly to your local courthouse and file for child support.
Should he ask to come back again..... Tell him Not in the lifetime NOR in any other!
2006-09-12 09:11:14 · answer #1 · answered by rolahey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is an ego maniac. He wants it all as they say his cake and eat it too. You sound weak to me. This is not a negative, most of us have some weakness or another. Yours seems to be charismatic boys who can't grow up. They do have charm and are fun to be around. The question is, "Do you want a man or a boy?" You can continue to take his crap or move on as hard as it may seem. If you move on, then cut him off at the knees. Get as much child support as possible and make him pay it. Maybe he will grow up but remember the old adage "Women marry men hoping they will change and men marry women hoping they wont." When the children come along the boys will remain boys and the girls have to become mothers and women. You as a woman must kick the boys to the curb, harsh as that sounds. Your children require this change so that they can grow up in a stable environment.
2006-09-12 16:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by FrogDog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already know the answer. Move on without him in your life (sue for child support). The worst thing I see is that he left you and the kids with no money for a week not the date. You said you had broken up so he was free to date but he still has a responsibility to the kids.
2006-09-12 16:11:33 · answer #3 · answered by Tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is completely up to you. I know this lady from my church and her husband met someone on the internet, sold her their business, and moved to Florida to be with his new "soul mate". Well, the new soulmate turned out to be a gold digger and spent all of his money. He came back to my friend and she did take him back, but she took him back on her terms. She trust him completely and knows that he loves her. That is something that you have to decide. Can you trust him? Can you REALLY trust him, not doubt him? If you can't trust him then I would say no, don't take him back. It will only make you both miserable in the long run. Here's another story of my best friend's husband. He was married once before to his high school sweetheart and she met someone on the internet. She left him AND their kids and moved to Maine. They guy kicked her out and she came back. He took her back on his terms and trusted her completely. A month later she went back to the Maine guy and now they are divorced. He took care of their kids all by himself. Just two examples for you to think about. Trust is so important in a relationship. Pray about it and ask for advice from friends. But be ready to hear the truth, don't just wait for someone to agree with you and follow their advice. If you get 1200 No's and 1 yes......maybe you shouldn't take him back.
2006-09-12 16:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by Kellybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that but from 1 mans point of view, your man feels that he is missing out on something in your relationship and is not feeling complete with what you guys have. Though his feelings may certainly be true for you he has not made up in his mind what or whom he would like to be with. Don't do the "ultimatim" because he may walk, he may have no problem doing that. You will never be able to deny your true feeling but try to start looking for a way out, ie family, friends, not relationship wise but aide from others.
2006-09-12 16:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by Scooba22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him now. Get paternity tests to get your child support and move on. This guy has no interest in making a real commitment to you and is using you. You deserve to have a life with someone who loves you more than anything else in the world.
2006-09-12 16:11:30 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just imagine that someone else asked this question and you have to give the answer. You know what you need to do sweetie....kick him out, take him court, get his wages garnished and take care of those kids. Sorry men...I had to do it. There are too many jerks out there giving us a bad name.
Oh...and i recommend you read a book called
"How Can I Kick His Aass Out?: The Courage to whoop aaaasss, the Freedom Not To" by Joey your friend on Y!.
2006-09-12 16:13:47 · answer #7 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once a cheatre, always a cheater!
If he didn't care enough not to leave you in the first place, with 3 babies and no money, why should you care enough to take him back?????? If he did it once, he will probably do it again!... are you willing to live with a person like that?????
2006-09-12 16:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by curious_me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, everyone makes thier mistakes. Do you really think he will change his ways? If not, find another. I know you got children with him, nothing will ever change that. There may be a man who will treat you right. I think you already made the decision to move on. You don't need anybody else answers to push you to that. Its your decision, your life.
2006-09-12 16:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by PROLADY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately NOT take him back. I mean he left you in that situation & even though he cares for you, it seems like he doesn't care enough about you to care about whether or not he'll hurt your feelings. As far as making moves on you, it just shows that he only probably appreciates or wants you for one thing, tell him to get it somewhere else, you've got more respect for yourself......... MOVE ON GIRL !!!
2006-09-12 16:13:38 · answer #10 · answered by Charlotte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋