We love each other and want to stay married for ever, but my husband has completely lost interest in and ability to make love. After over 10 years without sex, he says "look, get a lover, I don't mind, as long as you never leave me" Amazed how easy it was - a man of 60 (younger than me) obviously fancies me rotten, so we went to a hotel. After about two hours it was obvious he wasn't going to get more than half an erection. He says (so does my husband) that I'm attractive and have a decent bod. I'm a grandmother but I work out and am not fat or anything. He says he wants to try again, but I've got to dress up (stockings, etc) don't mind, but have already spent hours with husband doing this, and I get all worked up to no avail. Reluctant to go down that route if it leads nowhere again.
I don't want someone much younger, I just want a nice lover of about my own age, who won't want to marry me, just meet now and then to make love. Are all men over 50 impotent ?
2006-09-12 09:07:41 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
I have always dated men much older than me, and I have never had a problem. My current beau is 58, and I know he takes Cialis, but I don,t care, he is a great lover. As far as stockings, and a garter belt, I always wear them and have for years. I like wearing them as much as they like seeing me in them.
Having a good bod is only half the answer, looking feeling and acting sexy is where its at, and maybe you should think about what you look like with some clothes on instead of saying how great you look naked. Guys in their 20's go for naked, mature guys prefer sexy outfits.
2006-09-13 06:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 67 and went through the same thing as your husband but I found help with the aid of injection therapy. I have been using Caverject or Edex for over 10 years now and it has changed my sexual life. As soon as one gets over the assumption that sticking a needle in ones penis is very painful. On the contrary, you can hardly feel the injection. The erection it produces is very hard and lasts anywhere from 1 to 4 hours which makes sex very exciting once again not only for me, but also my wife. I know how a man feels when he has ED, and I also know how great it was to be able to perform once again like a teenager.
2006-09-12 09:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
not all men over 50 are impotent, I had a partner who was 23 years older than me (he was 55) and he managed very well!! Perhaps you could go to the doctor with your husband and get some viagra? this will help his libido and therefore you won't need to look for a lover. this path will only lead to heartache all round so perhaps focus on the relationship you already have. Sex isn't everything you know, have you tried masturbation or mutual masturbation?
2006-09-12 09:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by Loobyloo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a man 73 years old. Sex was always a possibility for me until I had prostate cancer, and an operation. It left me with total ED at age 66.. I know of other men who have successfully had sex with women, yes, and men, into their 80s. Speaking of men, you may want to find out where your husband's attraction and orientation is. I've seen men who have been hidden bi-sexual all their lives, lose total interest in their wives as both age. This would make an interesting study.
2006-09-12 09:56:22 · answer #4 · answered by D S 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Men usually remain sexually active throughout there entire lives. Sit-ups, sitting on a tennis ball on each side of the buttocks, prostate massage, diet , and vitamin supplements have all been known to help. A mistake that many women make is to think that their lover is solely responsible for their orgasm. I suggest practicing your orgasms alone to better understand what your body needs. Our minds decide when we have orgasms. When we have sex with another person we are exchanging our KARMA with them. That's why commitment is so valuable. Your husband might very well come around once all the pressure is taken off his shoulders.
2006-09-12 09:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by marygold2012 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-15 17:46:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I feel that it is wrong to go out and find someone just to make love with. You and your husband should go to counseling and maybe try one of the ED drugs that are on the market now. Going out on your hubby (even though he says it is ok) will only make things worse. Eventually you COULD develop real feelings for one of your lovers and it will make everyone's life miserable. Get counseling or buys some soft porn and a vibrator!
2006-09-12 09:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by LadyA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 52 and still going strong. You must have a man that has lost his drive to have sex. This does not happen to all men. I have heard of guys in their 70's fathering kids.
2006-09-12 09:12:27 · answer #8 · answered by Midwest guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all men of this age have this problem.
I would get husband to go to doctor for Viagra or the like.
I am sure you would much rather be making love with him anyway?
Good Luck!!
2006-09-12 23:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm rapidly approaching 60 but don't seem to have a problem with this. I reckon it's more a mental attitude than a physical thing.
2006-09-12 09:15:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋