my husband accused me of having an affair but then realized that he was being perenoid I actually had to leave the house and stay in a motel for about 2 weeks it got so out of control that my 17,18yr olds had to pin him down. When i moved out he apoligized to us. Were back home and have been for a year and half now were getting along but it just bothers me so much. It has caused me so much pain i just can't get over it. I've gained so much weight because i have no desire to do anything. We used have sex everynight but now its like every 2 to 3 weeks apart. Things have just changed so much that it bothers me I hope this doesn't seperate us. At the time of him accusing me I believe he was under the influence of using cocaine which he denise. do you think we will every be strong in our marrige again
2006-09-12 08:55:33 · 12 answers · asked by proudgrandma41 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol can be very paranoid and out of control. Only you can answer those questions! If everything is o.k. now, then maybe the healing can begin. first you have to be able to forgive him and the move on.Women associate sex with giving of ourselves and I think you still have alot of anger and hurt left over! good luck!!
2006-09-12 09:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs help and that i do no longer think of you may provide him the help he needs. There are ill people in this international and in my life and what i've got faith this is terrible. You tell him their isn't any ought to talk if he thinks this of you he. I continuously heard the accountable occasion continuously accuses the harmless. So tell him which you the two circulate into counseling. And if there's a difficulty maker accessible attempting to breakup your marriage then they ought to be held responsible for their movements. you have a newborn with this guy an the two you have a difficulty maker close to with the help of or your husband has themes. tell him no person else can stay on your place no remember what you do no longer want this stress raising a daughter in terrible accusations. this is trouble-free from people who have faith it is common. My niece concept i replaced into having an affair with my brother n regulation of 30 years and that i basically now forgave her for her ill suggestions and that has been 7 years in the past considering that she stated this to me. stable luck and attempt to strengthen your daughter with morals no remember what occurs it rather is important. God bless You and your loved ones.
2016-11-07 04:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually (not always) when someone comes on so strongly, accusing you of an affair that you know you didn't have, it's they who had the affair.
Yes, you can have a good marriage. You have to seek Christian counseling.
You are determined to keep the marriage going, which shows you love him. So, get some help, even if only you get counseling.
2006-09-12 09:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by Christian93 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing here is the trust was broken, and now you need to learn to trust again. Once you do that then the healing can start. Also you might want to consider a marriage therapist.
2006-09-12 09:00:30 · answer #4 · answered by g m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with Sunflower on the Guilt aspect. People that are trying to cover their guilt often shift it back on someone else. As for your Marriage, If you think it's worth fighting for, then do it-Seek counciling. Only you can do right for you.
2006-09-12 09:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience there had to have been a drug influence
Yeah you will be strong again, we are! It takes 2 sweetie, you can't do it all just remember
Take care
2006-09-12 09:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by momma whitley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard to know because once a marriage is broken, it is hard to patch things up no matter whose fault it was or if it was some dumb misunderstanding. we, as humans, tend to remember all the bad and not as much of the good. good luck.
2006-09-12 08:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by nataliejluv008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Jerry Springer. He probably accused you of something he was doing (guilty conscience). Give it up.
2006-09-12 08:58:07 · answer #8 · answered by sunflowers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not untill you get over him doing that - you know, accusing you of it...if you don't get over it you're just going to be bitter and unhappy! he made a mistake...get over it and be happy again!
2006-09-12 08:59:19 · answer #9 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling!
2006-09-12 09:15:52 · answer #10 · answered by mcnees79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋