ive been divorced for about over a yr and have to kids with my ex wife,every time i go there to pick up my kids or somthing elese she always naked and its realy starting to make me feel uncomftable,i get a little excited sometimes and dont what to do should i act on it and get naked to is she doing this on purpose ,should i tell her to stop i dont want to offend ger -please help thank , i know this is probaly the qwrong place for this but i need a womens opion,casue you know what guys are going to say
2006-09-12 08:46:33 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do not do anything with her until you can figure out her agenda. Even if she just wants to get back together because she loves you - this is not the way to do it.
Give her the following books by Dr. Laura:
"Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess up Their Lives"
&
"The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands"
She'll learn more about herself and her behaviour - and how to treat you or any other man in her life.
2006-09-12 08:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by nuovoterra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's naked around the children?? That's kindda nuts. I think if she doesn't make effort to put some clothes on for you, she may be trying to play mind games. It seems very fishy. You should ask her and risk her getting offended. It's better to know for sure rather than make assumptions. Why did the two of you divorce? Who initiaited it? Do you think the two of you have a chance of getting back together?
2006-09-12 15:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thinks she's just trying to make you uncomfortable. That's wrong. Don't act upon it. Just let her flount. Next time you go up there get a woman to go with you (not a gf but your ex doesn't have to know). When she sees that she has no control over you anymore she'll get over it. Why would a woman walk around naked in front of her kids anyway?
2006-09-12 15:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first things first, are the children ever there when she is indicent?
2nd, if it makes you feel uncomfortable take a (friend) along with you from now on.id call 1st and give her heads up that your bringing someone with you. the person can sit in the car or go to the door with you. maybe that will help keep her clothed. or you could just come out and tell her you dont appreciate her being naked when you pick up your kids.
2006-09-12 15:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by tara h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you go to pick up the kids speak to her on the phone and tell her it makes you uncomfortable. If she says she can do whatever she wants in her house tell her true so for now on you will have someone else pick the kids up for you or will ask her to send them out to you. Tell her you want her friendship because of the kids and nothing else.
She may feel this is her way of exercising power over you don't let her do it because she will eventually go farther.
2006-09-12 15:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kay, i used to do the same thing to my ex- and i was doing it on purpose, know why? 'Cus I still had feelings for him, and i wanted him to be thinking about me at the moment. I would talk with her and ask her right out... do you want me? If she denies it, then u know u cant get naked.. if she giggles or something that says ya... I hate to sound like a guy but.. GIVE IT TO HER!
2006-09-12 15:55:25 · answer #6 · answered by sandrawiltzen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is doing it on purpose. Tell her you would like the kids ready at the door when you arrive, that you won't be coming in the house anymore. That will put a stop to it without being offensive in any way.
2006-09-12 16:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her straight up what shes up to and without being ugly remind her that shes your ex wife and you are no longer in interested in any type of relationship with her other than her just being your kids mother and let her know shes trying to hard also tell her this makes you uncomfortable.
2006-09-12 15:52:14 · answer #8 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now see what your missing. Is she aware of your arrival time. Then she is doing this on purpose. Maybe she might want you back, or a piece of that... You would have to ask her. Must be some sort of intentions there. You know your wife better than me.
2006-09-12 15:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's doing it purposedly, she probably just wants some. It's up to you if you want to get tied up with her all over again, you did get divorced for a reason, maybe you should think of that when you see her naked that might help.
2006-09-12 16:14:57 · answer #10 · answered by eld13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋