why do i react the same way?

Question

I recently found this chick I usted to have a crush on in highschool on myspace and so far ..it's been alright..she gave me her phone number the second I sent her a message saying who I was and seemed really excited to hear from me...but I seem to be reacting to her the exact same way I did ( all freaked out at the slighted notice that she might want to stop talking to me, which I now realize wasn't a true reaction..but thats a different story.)
and I am wondering if I am having trouble seeing her as she is now, and not like she usted to be(which was a stereotypical viewpoint of someone who is very attractive to since I now know was inaccurate) ..she also seems to bring out my whiny qualaties..something I 've been trying to get rid of since I saw her last..but I have this feeling that I need her in my life for some reason..and realized she's alot like me.
How do I start to see her the way she is now and show her how much I've changed?

by "whiny qualaties" I mean throwing pity parties..however..since she only uses her myspace blog to get her emotions out..it may not be whines exactly..I only really wante to see her again b/c I never got to really get to know her in high school and I never got to say goodbye to her when she left early..however..I went through a period where I completely changed and I no longer found her attractive sexually or platonically in the same way..and she kind of was attracted to me after getting to know me and for a small time it was this nice thing..but she ended up being not enough....I always did like her spirit though..

Answer 1

Show her how much YOU'VE changed? I don't think you should see her quite yet. It sounds like you're a little boy who can't handle much. My opinion is you need to get some professional advice, like from a shrink.

Answer 2

Mature people are never in a hurry. They plan ahead and this always makes them seem more cool. Get a planner. Fill it up, and make yourself less available. Make sure she knows that you are making time for her even though you are very busy person.
You will seem more in charge to her, and you will keep yourself busy enough that you are not obsessing about her and your haunting shared past.
Don't listen to mean beotches who say you need a shrink. Everybody's feelings sound effed up when you try to be honest.

Answer 3

IT SEEMS LIKE YOU WANT A WAY TO MAKE EXCUSES FOR THIS GIRL, AND FOR YOURSELF.
DO YOU REALLY LIKE HER AS A PERSON? DO YOU KNOW ENOUGH ABOUT HER PERSONAL QUALITIES, OR ARE YOU JUST PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO HER?
OR...
DO YOU JUST WANT HER TO LIKE YOU? DOES IT VALIDATE YOUR EGO TO HAVE GOOD LOOKING WOMEN ATTRACTED TO YOU? DOES IT DO THE SAME THING FOR YOU IF AN UGLY GIRL LIKES YOU? COULD IT BE THAT YOU NEED GOOD LOOKING WOMEN TO LIKE YOU SO YOU CAN FEEL MORE POWERFUL AND ATTRACTIVE?
WHAT DO YOU MEAN BY "WHINY QUALITIES"? DO YOU MEAN THAT YOU ARE NEEDY AND DESPERATE, AND SHE NOTICED THAT ABOUT YOU?
ARE YOU THINKING YOU NEED TO CHANGE YOURSELF TO ATTRACT HER? DO YOU WANT TO CHANGE HER TO SUIT YOUR OWN NEEDS?
IF THE SHOES DON'T FIT, DON'T BUY THEM. SIMPLE. IT WOULD BE A BAD INVESTMENT, AND THERE IS NO POINT HOPING AND WISHING THAT SOMEDAY THEY WILL FIT.
MOVE ON, GET A GRIP. SOME DAY YOU WILL RUN INTO THE PERFET FIT....

Answer 4

Hmmm..it it rather intresting..yet i individually dont comprehend the story above. yet i think of you men shouldnt be struggling with in this familiar place. If I have been you i might run and verify out to ask an person for help, if the enemy starts chasing then you attempt to combat lower back reliable.

Answer 5

well, never go for crushes, i dunno, am single too, no idea bro, see, but i know one thing, most girls like to play with others feelings and all of em are in search of hunks tho they may say, we dont care for looks

Answer 6

Wha-a-a-t???