I have been talking to my 16 year old boyfriend for a month now. I haven't seen him in 2 months. my mother is very overprotective. She makes threats all the time and all she does is yell when i try to have a decent conversation with her. My boyfriend is a good person. I know if she really gets to know him she would definitely approve. I know I'm about to be 18(which means i can move out) but i have nowhere to go. I'm sure my mom won't let me talk to him no matter what age i am. I'm thinking about sneaking out when she is not home. Would waiting until my birthday make a difference? What should I do?
2006-09-12 08:27:07 · 26 answers · asked by CutiePie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
actually i just graduated im in college now. he is still in high school though
2006-09-12 08:32:41 · update #1
i make 18 on october 3 and he makes 17 on october 16
2006-09-12 08:42:11 · update #2
What kind of parent would kick you out at 17 because you sneaked out? OK, a lot of parents do. But "being able to move out and support yourself" or "being of consent age" really isn't the issue at case. Try to understand your mom's reasons for prohibiting you to talk to your boyfriend. Follow the advice in a previous answer, listen to her about her concerns, and let her know she can trust you. Why is this particular guy bad for you? Or would it be like this with any guy? In this case, reassure her that she doesn't need to be so overprotective and that you can take care of yourself (even if she won't believe you). Or is she just trying to "preserve your reputation" or some crap? In this case she's the one who needs to grow up. Tell her why he's so important for you, but you don't want to ruin your relationship with your mom. Bring him home and have a conversation with him and your mom together. Leave them alone face-to-face for a while. I used to be hated by girls' parents, but things changed when I started getting to know them.
2006-09-12 09:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by jarynth3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waiting until your birthday will make no difference...until you can support yourself, you are living under your mother's roof and should be listening to her. I think what would work best is to sit down and have a real, adult conversation with your mom about the fact that you are almost 18. Tell her that you understand that she is trying to do what is best for you, but that you are growing up and are capable of keeping your head on your shoulders and making good decisions. Tell her that you were raised right!
If she still does not want to let you go out with your boyfriend, then you will have to accept it. Get a job, get your own place, and then you can do whatever you feel like doing. Until you do these things, you can't really call yourself an adult anyway.
2006-09-12 08:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by alliekittie18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you realize that when you turn 18 your 16 year old boyfriend is now a victim of statutory rape? At 18 you are an adult, he is still a teenager. Do you realize you will be finishing high school and should be moving on with your life? I know 2 years is not much difference, but at the age you two are, you are at different stages in your lives. Let it go and find someone older.
2006-09-12 08:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, are you still in school, and I'm assuming that you are, you are still your mothers responsibility until you have finished school whether you are 18 or not. Don't make your mother mad at you and don't burn your bridges behind you. Second, if you are 18 and he is 16 and your relationship turns sexual, you are in big trouble, because he is a minor, it's statutory rape. I don't see anything wrong with dating a younger man, but you might want to wait until your a little older to be doing that. You are young, you have years ahead of you. Take your time, if he is the one, you both will wait.
2006-09-12 08:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by cowboys21angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till you are 18. Don't go against your moms wishes. Trust is a big issue. Once you are 18 you can move out or stay and respect your mothers rules. Maybe she just cares so much but try talking with her. If still not happy do what makes you happy.
2006-09-12 08:32:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to respect and honor your parents even though you do not agree with them. If you are depending on them for your support it does not matter if you are 18 or not. As long as you live in their home you should respect and obey them. You need to sit down and talk to your Mom and let her know how you feel and listen to her. If you are incapable of supporting yourself and are depending on your parents then you definetly need to follow their rules of the home. Sneaking out is a juvenile thing to do and would be inadvisable and only lead to further restriction to you because this would demonstrate a certain level of immaturity.
2006-09-12 08:42:46 · answer #6 · answered by SunFun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder what happend to make your mother so unresoncive to this man, as it were if she dosnt come from a broken home or an abusive siguashon or the like in other words is her life relitivley good and stable if it is she probly has good reason and you might want to talk to her about it. as it is I suspect that shes probly right, I know I didnt see the world or people very clearly when I was 18 good greef if your not 30 you need some one to tell you things you dont see, in short we all blind ourselfs to what we dont want to see. because we"love or Care" some times we just think we are. if its met to be it will be. besides if he cant provied for you neather of you are ready for commitment any way
2006-09-12 09:08:05 · answer #7 · answered by Bern 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By sneeking out your running a risk of getting caught and only making things worse than they are..I don't know what your mom has against this boy , if anything, but your problem is as long as you live under her roof then you will have to go by her rules..The best thing is to wait until you turn 18 and try to find a place of your own..you'll have to juggle school and a job but you will be your own person and have your own rules..Good Luck
2006-09-12 08:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by Just Dreamin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your mother! Do not run away. DO NOT SNEAK OUT!
Ask your mother why she specifically does not want you to see THIS boy. (Or is it any boy?). When she is telling youthis do not talk! Let her state her case. Write down her objections and then think about them. Give her reasons why she should trust you.
For example, is she's worried that "you'll get pregnant", let her know that you're not sexually active. If she's worried you may get into some sort of accident, assure her you will only be somewhere safe. Ask her to drive you or take her along to meet him. If she gets to know him she may take a liking to him.
But always be honest with your family. Before you know it your will be able to be with your boyfriend. You just have to earn that respect.
2006-09-12 08:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by Billy! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are immature by nature. If you have a good relationship with your mother than you want to keep, then don't sneak out. If you want to do what you want, then be financially stable and ready to move out. Make sure you are willing to sacrifice everything to be with this guy before you make any final decision.
2006-09-12 08:33:56 · answer #10 · answered by Quest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋