my bf and i have been having a long distance relationship for about 3 months now.....weve been friends for about a year before we started dating (we went to the same high school) so its not like i just met him online or anything like that and we were already dating for 2 months before it went long distance. the thing is, we were supposed to be 2gether again in august but problems arose in my family and it turns out im gonna have to be away from home for a year. He told me he wanted to wait for me and that he didnt care how long he would have to wait cuz he really loved me. However, about 3 weeks later he said that he was just missing me too much and that he needed a break cuz he couldnt handle me being so far away for so long. He said that he was so xcited that he would get to see me soon and spend time w/ me but when i told him that i wouldnt be comin anymore, he felt crushed. he says he doesnt want this 2 b a permanent break tho and he wants to get back together again wen i return
2006-09-12 08:22:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he said that he didnt kno it was gona be so hard, and that he cried alot of nites cuz he was really missing me. He says hes he doesnt want a break so he can hook up w/ other girls and stuff like that but bc he is just really weak and cant handle me not being there with him. the thing is......im having doubts.....it really disappointed me to kno that he was so weak.....but at the same time i really love him and i feel that if i dont give him another chance then ill be throwing away something thats really special to me and maybe he just needs some time to mature.....i dono....should i get back together with him in the future?
2006-09-12 08:27:38 · update #1
I think that you should wait until you move back home to see where the relationship ends up, but dont hold yourself back from finding new love interests now cause you never know if you and your long distance bf are really going to last.
2006-09-12 08:28:43 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsey H 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I met through his sister. He lived in MO and I in IA. For an ENTIRE YEAR i drove back and forth 1X a month for 1 weekend to see him, spend time with him, get to know him better. We never said then that we were exclusive. I did my thing and he did his. I knew that I loved him from the min I saw him but I also new that he is a man and had his own agenda at the time.
Then I got sick of all the driving and made the decision to move to his state and see what would happen. WE did end up togehter and exclusive. We are now married and VERY happy but if it weren't for the year that we were apart but still seeing each other I don't think we would have ended up together. It gave me time to be me, and gave him time to be him and now we are a WE but still I and him. Does that make sense?
If he had found another or visa versa during that time then we weren't meant to be together in the first place. Good luck
2006-09-12 08:31:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants his cake and eat it too. He wants the single life while you're gone so he can date others. In the meanwhile by telling you that you and he will get back together he's hoping you will sit around waiting and not date anyone else.
2006-09-12 08:26:54 · answer #3 · answered by kathy p 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think long distance is too hard for me personally. but maybe he found someone closer to him. either way i wouldnt because there are too many things that could come between you. do you trust him? i would have a problem with that
2006-09-12 08:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about giving him another chance. Go about your life and enjoy yourself. Remember you are single. If you are still single when the time comes for you to return, and if your feelings for him are still the same then, worry about it then. Don't worry about it for now.
2006-09-12 08:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a tough situation, maybe he should realize he isn't the only one who thinks the separation sucks. He sounds pretty selfish to be honest with you.
2006-09-12 08:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
only time can tell, who is to say you will even wanna be with him in a year
2006-09-12 08:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by Just Me!!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd want someone who's sure.
So I support you if you decide to make the break.
2006-09-12 08:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by sweets 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forget about.
2006-09-12 08:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ur question is too long, but the answer is no
2006-09-12 08:23:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋