is it a ball and chain, someone who u finally chose to share ur life with, OR does it start out the 2nd, but become the 1st?
2006-09-12 08:22:33 · 25 answers · asked by sasmallworld 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Those are really good, but I would offer one additional thing.
Good marriages are the products of compromise. One gives up part on oneself to make a marriage work. That doesn't mean giving up your personality or aspirations in life, but rather understanding that your actions and desire affect another person, and taking that person into account. Just something that I have notice I was doing in my own marriage, if you and your spouse can do this I think your marriage will continue to grow so will the both of you as a person.
2006-09-12 08:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My impression of marriage is that it's one thing in society and another in reality. So many times I've heard that 'ball and chain' thing--people act like someone held a gun to their head! I think there are confines in marriage, depending on the mates, and it's good for some, not good for others. So many people are passive about their marriages, like it's separate from them. They act like it's a garden, they'll sit back and watch grow, and it's more like it needs watered and fed and weeded...it's not a ball and chain over here, it is sharing a life...and it can be whatever two people make it.
2006-09-12 15:41:21 · answer #2 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is work and commitment.
So, why would someone get married? Because, they found someone they want to spend the rest of their life with while hoping for the best and preparing for the worst. Marriage isn't a guarantee of happiness. But, some things are worth the crap. Hope that makes since.
2006-09-12 15:39:15 · answer #3 · answered by wishing_i_could_sing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is shareing all of lifes problums together,communication is also so important with out this its not worth bothering about,the days have gone thank god when a lady wore a so called ball and chain,be happy
2006-09-12 15:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by barnowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not easy, and anyone who tells you that is not telling the truth. But, it is so rewarding. You go through ups and downs, just like in a relationship. It is a lot of give and take, trust, honesty, communication, and compromising. No one is perfect, everyone has faults, but they also have good qualities that attracted you to the person in the first place. The bible says that, "Love conquers all." and it does..........When a person knows who they are in Christ Jesus, it will reflect in your marriage. Unfortunately if an unbeliever decides to leave the marriage, God says in 1st Corinthians that He(God) is calling you to peace. Stay strong and believe in Love......God Bless you
2006-09-12 15:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by Selah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My loving bride and have been happily marriend for over 35 years. If you've found your soul mate, best friend and lover then it will never be a ball & chain. Yes there are always moments and times when things get out of sorts but we made a rule on our wedding day that both of us have always obseverd "never go to bed mad at each other".
2006-09-12 15:29:02 · answer #6 · answered by hook'em horns 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jean Paul Sartre said" marriage is an immoral institution, because its sole purpose is to keep people together by the force of law, even after they stopped wanting to be together". It is a corrupt and obsolete institution. Unfortunately, we haven't created any alternatives to it, so people keep trying it, to find emotional and financial stability in their lives. If we all refused to marry, then there would be lots of alternatives that would pop up to provide for child care, emotional support, alternative living arangements, group living, etc...But as long as we all put our hopes in marriage, the alternatives are not developed, and we all continue to suffer. It is amazing how many people wrote how much work it is, and how hard it is, and it never occurs to them that maybe it doesn't have to be so hard, and maybe there could be other alternatives that are much more pleasant. Instead they all talk about how hard you have to try to make it work. It is a complete lack of imagination.
2006-09-12 16:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by professortvz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone you choose to spend your life with. Adding what I think of marriage ... an unity between 2 that no one or nothing can break. A never ending circle represented by the wedding band.
2006-09-12 15:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to do impressions over the typing but here goes....
AAAAAHHHHHHHH!
Some days it's the best thing in the world, others it's the pits. Hope you find more good days then bad!
2006-09-12 16:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by Jeffrey S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, marriage is a life time partnership based on love, commitment, honesty, trust, companionship, patience, understanding and friendship.
2006-09-12 15:33:43 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋