We were driving home from marriage counseling and he was so quiet (which is usual, so I didn't wory about it.) When we got home, he changed clothes, ate, took a nap (all without a word to me) and then just silently starting packing his bags?
I asked him where he's going and he told me (incredbly calmly) it did not matter now that the divorce papers will be in the mail in a couple of months and just walked out on me! I've called his cell but it says my number is blocked. The therapist says he "shut down" in therapy. What is going on?
2006-09-12 08:09:42 · 10 answers · asked by Selly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My suggestion, leave him alone and let him be. Why does it matter to you how he feels about and reacts? Why are you so concerned about him NOW? At least he wasn't abusive and left calmly. You have to accept what is going on.
Everyone reacts different ways. He will find ways to grieve and his way is to get away from you and start over. My heart goes out to the guy. Don't bother trying to contact him, unless it's about the divorce or legal matters. (or about the children, if you have any together)
2006-09-12 08:17:09 · answer #1 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe he did shut down. It was too much for him. I mean come on, is he suppose to take this lightly? A woman who gave her vows to him to forsake all others, a woman he gave his trust to only to find out that the woman he thought he knew and trusted betrayed him. How in hell do u think he should feel?
Some people go on a flying rage, some go out and cheat themselves, your husband simply shut down. I think my husband would fly into a rage then shut down too if I ever did this.
He is NOT taking the news of your affair easily. He is extremely hurt and this is his coping mechanism. And u are lucky he didn't turn on u physically. He's man enough to walk away. I believe it's over for good.
2006-09-12 15:18:12 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your one of the lucky ones , I think you had an incrediable husband, he realized it was over what else could he have said,He was probably hurt inside really bad but figured it was over so he needed to move on..I'd blocked your number too..He is through with the marriage is what it sounds to me..So if I were you I'd move on apparently he is..
2006-09-12 15:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by Just Dreamin' 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is normally a quiet person maybe he isn't taking it to quietly maybe this is the only way he know to deal with it or maybe he isn't going to give you the satisfaction of knowing he still cares by flipping out about it.
2006-09-12 15:16:32 · answer #4 · answered by brunette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is going on is that your husband has decided not to be with you anymore. he has decided that your affair has ended the marriage and he's not going to invest the energy of fighting over something of which he has already divested himself. it's likely that you hurt him beyond any capacity he has for forming words. he's probably done with you.
2006-09-12 15:19:44 · answer #5 · answered by jude D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, are you that blind?
He did NOT take it well. He completely shut down and he's obviously emotionally done with you.
Why are you calling him?
Time to move on honey.
2006-09-12 15:37:17 · answer #6 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people simply don't tolerate cheating and the therapist can label it anyway they want.
2006-09-12 15:22:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you expect. Did you want him to hit you? He's hurt I don't blame him. Have a nice single life
2006-09-12 16:17:32 · answer #8 · answered by Raineybaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you feel better if he kicked your butt first and then went and packed his bags?
You cheated, he's gone
2006-09-12 15:51:58 · answer #9 · answered by idtshadow 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's (wisely) moving on and you should to.
2006-09-12 15:13:36 · answer #10 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋