2006-09-12 07:57:26 · 35 answers · asked by Please use other door 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Two times in 2 yrs? No way in hell! Once would probably be enough but twice would be more than too much.
2006-09-12 08:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked a similar question a few minutes ago. I too found out that my husband cheated on me twice in the past year. I found some evidence and confronted him and he couldn't deny it. We've got four kids to support and I've only been working for a few months now. So I can 't support myself completely yet. I think for now I'll stay with him. It's taking a lot out of me and sometimes I think I'm going crazy. If you love him, stay. If you believe and trust him, stay. If you can't, then y'all may need to get counseling or something. Hugs and all that good stuff to you honey. I know you need it. I know I sure do. You're not alone. I'm there too. Good luck
2006-09-12 08:04:19 · answer #2 · answered by vitamin D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesnt matter which way teh cheating happend its still deception. Personally id get out of it quick ! if u stay then it will signal to him that he can do it over and over again and get away with it, he wants his cake and eat it too, although this would be nice he has to realise that he is married and he cant do that. U deserve much more than this ! Also next time ur having sex ? can u honestly say that u wont be thinking bout the other women that he has been with ? As for how many ? well its twice u say. Well its twince that u know of, depending on his job and ur lifestyle it may well be a damm sight more than that. Ultimatley it doesnt matter if he has done ot once then its once too many get out of it while u still can or he will just walk all over u
2006-09-12 08:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by Phantom Viper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always heard "Once a cheater always a cheater," if he has already done this twice to you, then I would have to say that there is no hope. Have you known about all this before you two got married, or after you got married? If you knew about it beforehand, then I would have never married him, if you found out afterwards, I would go to marriage councilling and see if that helps. Also, if he seems to start pulling away from you and going out more often than usual, and does not want to have sex, he is probably cheating on you. Good luck to you and I wish you all the best of luck
2006-09-12 08:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by ridingis4life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stay because if it's happened twice it's likely to happen again. Plus I don't think I could forgive that! I mean I might say I do but how could I ever forget? Ya know what I mean. And any time he was late coming home or any suspicious behavior in the back of my mind I would be wondering if he was cheating. For me once that trust is broken it is very hard almost impossible to get it back! What is a marriage without trust???
2006-09-12 08:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by faith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, because if he did it TWICE he'll do it again. I can guarantee that. One of the best things for you to do right now is to separate, then he can see go life is without you. If says he won't do it again DON'T believe it.
That's a flat out LIE! If you have any kids take them with you when you leave. If they are almost grown then you might start thinking about getting the divorce papers drawn up.
I think you need to drop that knuckle head faster than a 5 ton brick. If you don't he'll do it again & again & again. He'll never stop. You need to get out while you still can.
He doesn't care about you no matter what he says. If he says he does, don't believe it because it'll be a flat out lie to keep you around. He isn't the kind of person that kids should be around, because they might grow up thinking that's how girls should be treated.
I don't think this at all. Get out while you still can. The best way to do this is if your at home most of the day, pack up and be gone before he gets back from work. Leave no number to reach you. Let him see how you feel. That way if he does this again. Do this again but never return.
Hope this helps.
2006-09-12 08:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jarod R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you cheat, why would you stop? Now you know how to get away with it and now you know that your spouse is so sad and pathetic that they will put up with whatever you dish out. Now IF you decide to stay, you should know that it will only progressively get worse. I truly have no idea why anyone would put up with that - especially only 2 years into it. Let me ask you something....if he works late or goes to a friend's, how many times do you call to make sure he's really at there? or just wonder if he's really there? That's a pitiful existence.
2006-09-12 08:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by SAN P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you find out on your own, or did he come to you and confess because he want's to make it right? The most likely answer would be to leave him, but it's more complicated than just yes or no. I depends a lot on your relationship. Do you love him? Does he love you? Do you think you can forgive him and learn to trust him again? Do you think he'll keep cheating? There are a lot of questions you need to answer before you make your decision. My advice though, is that if you caught him, then he is probably only acting sorry to appease you, and hasn't really changed. If he is genuinely trying to make things right though, it might be worth giving it another chance.
2006-09-12 08:03:00 · answer #8 · answered by ask the eightball 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did stay, for 10 yrs, and it did not change anything. He kept on cheating, til I finally left him. Now we are friends and he said I did the right thing to leave him, and he never married. That was 20 years ago. I am happily married to a faithful guy now, we just had our first anniversary.
2006-09-12 08:04:21 · answer #9 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, only two years and has already cheated twice. He hasn't even givin marriage a chance. If I were you I would not stay. They always say they will never do it again but if he has done it twice then who to say it will never happen again? Good luck girl.
2006-09-12 08:02:59 · answer #10 · answered by Just_Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋