Yesterday was my husband's Bday and he was rather depressed. He gets depressed each year on his birthday since the attacks. He won't watch TV. he won't talk about it. It's been rough.
We have family in NYC and thankfully they did survive (2 friends were in the towers, an aunt lived 2 blocks away) and we have family in Sommerset County, PA where the plane crashed (1/3 mile away) and my uncle was working in or near the pentagon that day and had evacuate that day with thousands of others... So we (as is the entire nation) are very connected with the events of that day.
I feel guilty telling him this each year - but I tell him it's okay to celebrate his birthday, that the people who perished would not want all Americans to stop celebrating a special day just because it's Sept. 11. Babies were born that day ON THAT VERY DAY... and years before and years after. I think it's okay to be happy on 9/11 for something special.
Do you?
2006-09-12 07:54:59 · 8 answers · asked by KimiBloss 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
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When people find out his Bday is Sept. 11th, they say things like "oh you poor thing" and "wow! that sucks for you"....
none of which help the situation.
2006-09-12 07:56:23 · update #1
Yeah, my brother's birthday is that day too. And I hear those remarks all the time. But it may just take him some time to get over it. Maybe you should try celebrating it a few days before, so he doesn't get depressed about it yet.
2006-09-12 08:01:22 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ady_8e_80♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, I think that we should go about our lives as best as possible.
Maybe it would be nice to have a celebration that includes a moment to remember those who died and in doing so to feel appreciative of each birthday he/you/we are able to celebrate.
Although it is a sad day, it is also a day to remember just how much we should enjoy every moment we get to share with loved ones, every happy occasion.
As for the people who say "you poor thing" etc. Maybe a polite but firm response is in order. I would say "I am humbled and honored to celebrate my life on 9/11. Each year the deaths of so many brave Americans remind me just how much I have to be thankful for."
2006-09-12 15:04:18 · answer #2 · answered by cvillecmd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's silly. Just because something bad happened on a certain day doesn't mean you can't celebrate something good that happened on the same day. Do people forget their birthdays on Dec. 7 (Pearl Harbor)? Or Jan. 28 (Challenger)? Or how about the day someone you love dies? The people that passed that day no longer have the ability to celebrate the good things. We almost have an obligation to them to do so since we are still blessed with life.
If it bothers him that much, change his birthday.
2006-09-12 15:06:00 · answer #3 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should be very happy that its his birthday and let nothing stop him from celebrating. Maybe you could do a little something a week (or whatever works) before 9/11 every year so on his Birthday his sad feelings would already be gone.
2006-09-12 15:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by zerospacegurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this having his birthday party on Sat.After his b-day Make it a suprize.buy then 9-11 day is past an he can focus on his fam. and friends Also enjoy his B-day.I hope this can help ya out. Make it a BIG thing. enjoy your selves good luck and god bless you.I'm not saying that any of us will ever forget that day because it relly did happen. But try and make that memory of the past this is the future make new feelings and happy memories.
2006-09-12 15:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by gingergirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend Grace's birthday was yesterday too. She has the same thing going on. She feels badly and doesn't celebrate her birthday anymore. She lives in NY and of course there are alot of memorial services going on so she doesn't want to participate in any festivities.
Really, I agree with you, the people that died would have wanted their families to go on living and not be "the walking dead" without having anymore happy thoughts. Maybe talking to a counselor or clergyman. And if he doesn't want to go, then you go and see how yoiu can help him.
good luck
2006-09-12 15:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by island3girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats wrong with celebrating your birthday? my brothers birthday is on the same date as the bloodiest day during WW2. he gets really sad but we are still glad. you are right. the people who died on that day would not want you to end your life's happiness just because you lost someone close to you or for your husband situation.
2006-09-12 15:04:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is alright, sing happy birth day to him
2006-09-12 14:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by cool and simple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋