if you say you love someone but you cheat does that mean that the love stops? I have a friend who is inlove with there boyfriend but she said she has a "puppy dog crush" on a boy she met on line...she thinks that she might cheat eventually.
2006-09-12 07:51:58 · 27 answers · asked by ImOuThEreUdigg!! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Of course it's possible. I cheat on the woman I love on a regular basis. It's just part of life.
2006-09-12 07:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by Colin R 1 · 1⤊ 4⤋
WOW what a loaded question. Well the fact is yes you can love someone and still cheat on them but if you are truely INLOVE with someone then they fulfill ALL your needs. They may not fullfill your WANTS but your needs.
I am a female and I cheated on my ex boyfriend and I loved him but he was not fullfilling my needs and I am not talking about sexually. He was great in bed BUT he was NOT full filling my needs emotionally. I needed to be held, I needed to be looked at, I needed to feel beautiful, I needed to feel wanted and cared for.
If someone cheats its usually because their current relationship is lacking something and they are looking else where to find that missing element/s and they found qualities in another person that they do not have in their current relationship and I am only speaking from my own experience. I am no expert but that is why i cheated.
2006-09-12 15:01:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love someone with all your heart and soul than no it is not possible to love and cheat on a person. If you are in love of the idea of the person I can see it being OK. You got to step back and think if it is the person or the idea that is being loved!
2006-09-12 14:55:01 · answer #3 · answered by WOOOOO Whooo 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you can be in love with someone... and not respect them enough to possibly cheat.
I don't believe it is right.... or a good thing to do.. but I could see how it could happen.. if they do in fact cheat.... it would mean they did not have respect for their partner though... and without respect is there a relationship worth having?
Ask your friend to get off the fence..... the grass will always be greener on t he other side... but you cant have both... she should pick a side =)
Best of luck to you and your friend =)
2006-09-12 14:53:34 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ goddessofraine ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To answer your question NO! If she cheats it's becauise she wants to and if she has a crush, she need to examine how she really feels about her boyfriend, Love does not hurt, and true love won't stop just because you're attracted to someone.
attraction is normal what you do with that attraction is where the problems start.
example: Women like to window shop, nothing is wrong with that the problem starts when you start trying on the things you see especiallly when you can't afford it.
2006-09-12 14:57:40 · answer #5 · answered by Raven 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
cheating is never right no matter what. if she cheats on him then she must either not love him the way she says she does or isn't getting something from him and thinks she'll get it from some one else. either way it's still wrong and if she isn't sure about her feelings for her b/f, and that is what it sounds like, then she needs to put her relationship on pause and figure out what she wants. and on the flip side, internet relationship never really work out b/c of the fact that you never know who they are and it could be an on line predator who turns out to be a serial killer, in which case i don't condone it. if you care about your friend tell her this because she could be ruining a very good relationship with her b/f. and just in case you're wondering, this on line relationship could end up with her dead and you feeling guilty for not telling her the facts. trust your instincts and god bless!
2006-09-12 15:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by demonswt88 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Probably. The way that I look at it, is you can love someone, and not be in love with them. So that's probably your friends case. She does love her boyfriend, and would care if something happened to him, but she's just unsatisfied with him. If she was smart, she should break up with the boyfriend so that she doesn't hurt him anymore, cause he will find out eventually, and then she might be left with no one. Remind her once a cheater, always a cheater, and that she shouldn't get in that habit, cause if she does love her boyfriend, she wouldn't want to hurt him like that.
2006-09-12 14:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by Hannah 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is but it means that you really dont love them all that much. Why would you hurt someone that you love. I do not understand how you could do that. If she met someone online and is going to cheat, that is a joke. Let her do it, the internet is not a good place to meet people.
2006-09-12 14:53:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you truly love someone, then you stop looking around for the bigger, better deal and become happy with your situation the way it is. When people cheat it is because some part of them is unsatisfied with some part of their life. When you really love someone, you are satisfied with the relationship you have.
2006-09-12 14:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by alliekittie18 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
many answers have been given it slayes me that so many dont know what love is, NO you cant love some one you can care for them and cheet, but you CAN NOT LOVE you can have feelings that are mistaken for it, but love is more a verb than a noun it is caring and wanting to give yourself, sacrafice for another if for no other reason than to show how inportant thay are, ( normaly dose no good in long run) howver if thay cheet thay dont love, with out commitment their is no love, with out a williness to comprmise and take care of the both of you their is no love, in short if you ever question a persons actions and wether thay love you just ask your self would GOD have done that ? if the anwser is no then their probly isnt much love their
2006-09-12 15:04:15 · answer #10 · answered by Bern 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO. Love is not something to be divided. It doesn't seem like your friend respects that "love" she has with her boyfriend enough to only give it to him. How would she feel if her boyfriend was dividing his love among other women?
2006-09-12 15:25:29 · answer #11 · answered by Quest 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋