i had a live in GF for +/-7 years. recently i sent her back home for holidays and also went to meet her there. i came back early and she came after me. after i heard stuff about her and another guy, but she swore it was just friendship. i got into her email recently and saw that she had planned since she got back to make probs. with me so she could go back and be with him!!
i sent her back 6 months ago and she actually left our son of 4 years with me to be with the otherguy. i gave her everything, so why did she do this and on top of that this guy is a known looser and player???
2006-09-12 07:45:23 · 18 answers · asked by set d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She has lived with you for nearly 7 years and enjoyed every thing and also given to you every thing. No why she should have different idea. Of course in Western contries it is very common, but before taking any discision give her all chances and you will find that she is still faithfull to you. Even after that if you found her otherwise you can do anything. But i feel it will not go to that extent.
2006-09-12 07:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry, I got goosebumps when I read about the child being left. She is just sorry, not for walking out on a good guy but for ditching her own child, that is pitiful! Just focus on your son and get custody, it would be easy with her actions she has pulled, raising a child is awesome, I have a 3 year old boy, don't ever give up, the baby needs you and she's probably likely to lose the guy and come home but I wouldn't allow that. She has done some hurtful things, skanky broad
2006-09-12 14:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by momma whitley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuz ur with the wrong woman.. :(. i'm sorry to say, but u are doing the right thing to love and cherish whoever you are with; however, she needs to be WORTH IT. and if she does things behind ur back, and u find out, and she doesn't change, she is not worth it. that doesn't mean u shouldn't treat a woman well, it just means u have have expectations for what kind of woman u want in the first place..all the while making sure you are the kind of Man you want to be. when u are sure that u are an Awesome person, boyfriend, husband, father, you DESERVE an Awesome person, girlfriend, wife, mother. therefore, don't settle until u can find that. and don't treat someone badly because of ur experience...that just means u are not doing your part. u need to find someone who appreciates you doing ur part, and will do her part. it is give and take, it is unconditional love and commitment and support to grow the relationship. good luck, and learn from this mistake, do not let the negatives bring u down. focus on the positives to become BETTER, Positive, healthier, and ultimately Happier, for the good of urself, ur future mate, and ur children.
2006-09-12 14:49:36 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There u go, u just said it...he's a loser and player. In other words, everything you're not. She probably finds him exciting. At any rate, u should just get rid of her because if she wants to get with a loser like that, then she ain't worth it. Besides, she might end up bringing home some STD's since u said this guy is a player so...be careful.
2006-09-12 14:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sasmalworld gave a great answer! As she mentioned, look for the positives out of your experience. If she left you doesnt mean you are bad. If you feel you have done everything you can do to keep her happy and despite that she left you means she is Bad. She doesn't deserve your love! Be happy that such a hypocrite person moved out of your life! Be strong! wih you all the best!
2006-09-12 15:01:53 · answer #5 · answered by Goldenheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you can not blame your self. You could have done nothing different if she didn't communicate that to you. There has to be communication for you to know what is right and what is wrong in her eyes. Women and men are very different, women need different things to be themselves and they HAVE TO tell you because men are not mind readers and niether are women. Trust me you are better off with out her. If you feel as if you did nothing to provoke this and she has not told you anything then ..... you have no other reason to believe that you were not the cause.
Good luck, your soul mate is out there, she just wasn't it.
2006-09-12 14:51:30 · answer #6 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry......You should go file for custody of your son before she decideds she "wants him back" and move on with your life....I know it wont be easy but she doesnt deserve a second chance....you sound like a wonderful man.....dont let this stop you from finding The one your meant to be with...hey you have a son who needs his dad right now....
2006-09-12 14:47:26 · answer #7 · answered by Do I know you? ya right LoL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because she is a shelfish *** hole!!!
how can a mother leave her child than a good man that does anything for her? she does not deserve you or your son.
she will try to come back but I wouldn't let her that guy is going to get her real good what comes around goes around.
file for custody of your son she abandoned him. she was not for you now god will send the right women to you.
2006-09-12 14:59:28 · answer #8 · answered by seeking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She left her son behind?? What is she 12?? Leaving a man-ya'll need to get over that crap. When we're done-we're done. Stop cryin' over it & beggin' us back.That sh-t don't cut it. Now her leaving her kid-that's messed up. But be glad you got him & she didn't take him away from you-that happens far too often.
2006-09-12 14:55:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women are crazy maybe you wasn't giving her what she needs as for her leaving her son behind that was just wrong
2006-09-12 14:55:10 · answer #10 · answered by Shanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋