2006-09-12 07:45:11 · 17 answers · asked by vicki d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Restart the relationship. Plan some dates. Talk a lot. Smooch a lot. Plan some things together: future dates, a vacation, volunteer work, ... Work on being closer and he'll be more interested in lovemaking.
I really believe that married men are not very different from married women in this regard. Do you tell him that you love him, that you are proud of him, that you're glad he's your man, and that you're glad to be his woman? This is good stuff any time.
While you're working on those things, don't be afraid to kick things off yourself. Stroll into the den nude, sit in his lap facing him and kiss him like he's going to Iraq next week. Then start undressing him. He'll get the idea. Or, while he's sleeping, take him in your mouth. When wakes up, climb on and go for a ride. Or, buy some massage oils and learn how to massage each other.
2006-09-12 07:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Working together as a team.
Communication through listening and respecting what each of you has to say.
I find that by simply asking about her day and listening to her problems makes my wife very happy. Most of the time I dont say much back, but by listening shows I care about her day and what was part of it.
Another key is to respect her wherever you are. As stupid as it may sound, she still loves that romantic man that opens the door and surprises her. Just because you are married doesnt mean you are not human.
Please dont gawk at other women when she is with you. Try to turn the tables. Would you want her gawking at other men while you are eating at a restaurant?
And back to the old saying, "treat her the way you want her to treat you."
And tell eachother, "I love you." You never can run out of saying that.
2006-09-12 14:50:34 · answer #2 · answered by mcbrian2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spice can be going on a weekend trip-wearing costumes, going out dancing then dancing with others just to get you going. Sounds more like a communication problem than anything--time to take it to a nother level--volunteer or get involved in your personal goals a little more=to have more to share.
2006-09-12 14:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by loves1guyatatime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married, but I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 years and we have 2 kids. Next year we are getting married. I always ask him, things like, take me out on a date. And when we go, it feels like we just met. We leave the kids with their aunt overnite and it just feels so special when it's just me and him (We love the kids too). I suggest going on dates, I know you guys are married but you know what I mean. Go up to him/her and say " Wanna go out sometime as if you guys were in high school and you just met for the first time. Go to a hotel room for the weekend or just get a way. God Bless.
2006-09-12 14:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cover him in cayenne pepper lol, j/k. Take a trip, go out to do something different. Slip naughty underwear in his breifcase or car. Good luck and if that fail, fredericks of hollywood has a website.
2006-09-12 14:47:27 · answer #5 · answered by melissajeanwilson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first person but in a marriage you are right. You need your own space. Exactly.
You each need to take sepearte vacations from each other, you both need to be working outside the home, you both need to have hobbies outside the house. You need to find joy within yourself and not expect it from the other person.
If your not happy its not because of the other person, its because you have let the outgoing part of you die. If you are more enthusiastic in your daily life for yourself, you will be more excited to share it with your partner.
2006-09-12 14:48:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are out somewhere, say the movies, play with him sexually and then go to the restroom and remove your underwear. Bring them back to him and say, "I don't think I'll be needing these for what we are about to do. (Wear a skirt on the date.) Or even better don't wear any underwear at all.
2006-09-12 15:08:26 · answer #7 · answered by big_strong_one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try being kind to one another give complements. Try to talks about things that may be important to your spouse listen and affirm. Take your spouse out on a date to rekindle.
2006-09-12 14:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by Web Blazer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try re-living your first dates together... go to the same restraunt... go to the same hotel.. (if applicable)... go to the same function... and remind each other why you fell in love in the first place... and take a night to spend together... using your hands only.. no intercourse... just exploring each other and enjoy the moment... after you feel you both can't take it anymore (the touches).. drag it out a little more each time... and when you REALLY can't... just go for it... EXPLOSION!!
2006-09-12 14:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by Million$Mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many times do I have to say this.
Ask to be tied up and get a digital camera.
2006-09-12 14:49:45 · answer #10 · answered by Gone Rogue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋