My husband is younger than me by 6 years. When we first got together the sex was awesome, now that we are married.. I have lost some weight and look and feel good and I am lucky to get to have sex with him 2 or 3 times a month !!!! I am not sure how to fix this problem... I have discussed it with him and I kid around by saying that I am going to have to get a boyfriend but nothing works... any suggestions ?
2006-09-12 07:28:02 · 17 answers · asked by Bridgett T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The main thing here is stop kidding around about getting a boyfriend. Nothing will make a man lose interest faster than that.
Next, restart the relationship. Plan some dates. Talk a lot. Smooch a lot. Plan some things together: future dates, a vacation, volunteer work, ... Work on being closer and he'll be more interested in lovemaking.
I really believe that married men are not very different from married women in this regard. Do you tell him that you love him, that you are proud of him, that you're glad he's your man, and that you're glad to be his woman? This is good stuff any time.
While you're working on those things, don't be afraid to kick things off yourself. Stroll into the den nude, sit in his lap facing him and kiss him like he's going to Iraq next week. Then start undressing him. He'll get the idea. Or, while he's sleeping, take him in your mouth. When wakes up, climb on and go for a ride. Or, buy some massage oils and learn how to massage each other.
2006-09-12 07:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is feeling self concious because of your stylin new bod, so figure out a game or something that will lead into a great sexual episode. And p.s. you are one of the lucky ones if you can get it 2 or 3 times a month. I know women that are married that have sex like 2 to 3 times a year.
2006-09-12 07:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by Natty137 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions say more than words. Definitely he’s demonstrating that he is careless of your feeling and it sounds as if hedoesn't want to hear about it too.
I think a man like that does not deserve you, since you are concerned and willing to solve this situation. If only he would act like you.
I think you should prepare yourself for a worse-case-scenario: separation.
Save some money, get a job and hold on tight for some ruff times and go out - Be more socialy active!!!
2006-09-12 07:53:06 · answer #3 · answered by etherberg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that a few things could be going on.Maybe he was more attracted to you before you lost weight,hes stressing over work or finances,feeling inadequate sexually or as a provider,or maybe the age difference is bothering him IE,things in common,looks etc.Have you been treating him differently?And I hate to say it maybe hes feeling guilty about something hes done or doing
2006-09-12 07:40:10 · answer #4 · answered by daisydame357 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is tired from the stress of life. I suggest a romantic holiday weekend get away for 2.
2006-09-12 07:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by applecheeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting a boyfriend is no laughing matter. That would make him more insecure...even if he plays it off....Maybe he liked you a little more with some weight....Our weight problem is our problem not really his.....I used to way 124lbs and I have gained 10 and my husband tells me that I look better with weight.
2006-09-12 07:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you becauseI haven't had sex in like three months and i also don't know what to do I mean not to be nasty butn I can rub his ball give him some headand he will still roll over and just go to sleep
2006-09-12 07:31:00 · answer #7 · answered by Shanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you waiting on him to initate sex? If so, YOIU initiate it. If he is still unresponsicve you need to have a sit down and a serious talk and ask him what is going on. Is he stressed? cheating? depressed? There has to be a reason.
2006-09-12 07:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go find someone else to give you what you need or stay and stick it out. I have no suggestions because I'm going through the same crap. Good Luck.
2006-09-12 07:31:00 · answer #9 · answered by geminiblue26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what turns him on if he likes sexy ligerie then get the sluttiest outfit you can find then if he doesnt respond then if you do not want to cheat take to masturbation. I know a lady who is gourgeus and likes to get on line and masturbate while chatting find someone with imagination and let him or here talk you through a mind shattering orgasm with a viborator. get one with a g-spot stimulator
2006-09-12 08:52:50 · answer #10 · answered by William M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋