I have a girlfriend and she cheated on me about a week ago. She told me that she cheated on me. She said she was sorry and cried all night. She told me that she is attracted to the guy she cheated on me with. She tells me that she loves and wants to marry, but still wants to be friends with that guy she cheated with. I love her very much but I told trust her. I don't know if I should get back with her or not.
2006-09-12 07:20:18 · 20 answers · asked by xldfi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
b s - who is really using whom?
She doesn't know what she wants, but what about you. Are you just going to settle for someone who will use you when its conveinient and mess around when you're not around?
Either you are alright with having an Open relationship or you - YOU want a one to one relationship, of fidelity and dedication to each other.
You're better off to move on, and find someone better. Unless you want to spend the rest of your life being a doormat.
Its is Your Choice, its Your life to Ruin or to Live to the best For each other when you find someone that is good for you and you are good for her.
Cheers !!!
2006-09-12 08:03:43 · answer #1 · answered by somber_pieces 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest if she still wants to be friends with that guy she wants her cake and eat it too. First if she loves you cheating would not have happened. If she was attracted to the guy the right thing to do is stay far away and make sure that they don't end up in the same place. Love doesn't hurt, people do and she has hurt you and her crying may be out of guilt, not feeling sorry. The fact that she still wants contact with her tells you that.
Before you marry her give yourself time and watch her because she may really be sorry for cheating or she may learn how to hide what she does and end up doing it again. Give yourself time.
2006-09-12 14:35:01 · answer #2 · answered by Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to think this time is not the only time she has cheated, and not only that, I do not think this time will be the last time either. She is not going to give this other guy up. Be friends with him? She must be joking.
I would not, for the sake of your dignity, take this woman back. As one who has been cheated on before, I can say I know this hurts and a certain part of you may want to deny what has happened really has happened.
Nothing good can or will come from staying with this woman. Common sense dictates this relationship end immediately, if not sooner.
2006-09-12 14:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by bowtierodz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess i would have to say that it depends. in my opinion, she can't be friends with that other guy (i'm just assuming that you're not really comfortable with that) AND resecure the trust in her that you both need for a loving relationship. I'm not saying that it can't happen. If you truly love this woman, perhaps you and she should find a mediator to help you two sort out some emotions if you can't do it on your own. She needs to come clean about why she cheated so that you can work together on rebuilding the relationship and the trust. Good Luck!
2006-09-12 14:28:07 · answer #4 · answered by eeyoung03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat almost always a cheat. If she left the guy alone then there is the possibility of reconciliation, but she can't even respect you , and your relationship, enough to leave him alone so i say leave her alone. How can she expect you to build back up your trust for her if she continues to spend time with the person she cheated with. She does not seem ready for committment (especially marriage) at all
2006-09-12 14:28:05 · answer #5 · answered by finewine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the foundation of any good relationship. A viable marriage takes commitment. Your girlfriend has destroyed the first, and is not ready for the second. You may love her, but do you respect her, which is another important element in a committed relationship. I think you can make a decision based on these three factors.
2006-09-12 14:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, u need to not get back with her, if she's done it once, she'll do it again.
There is the right girl out thre for you, one that will be faithful.
Be yourself for a while as this may color your opinion about women in general. You will also find yourself comparing other women to her. be very careful as sometime you'll talk yourself right out of what could be a very good relationship.
Open your heart and let it stay open, the hurt will pass but don't be a schmuck and get back together with her.
2006-09-12 14:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont put yourelf through that questioning stage..she messed up and I think you know what you have to do. I know you love her very much but if she really loved you then why would she say that she wants to remain friends with the other guy, and why would she tell you that shes attracted to him? Thats disrespectful. I think you should leave it alone..dont get back with her. Move on..you deserve way better..you'll find someone who respects you and loves you and only you..
good luck!
2006-09-12 14:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. I suggest you do not take her back. You are better then that, well I hope you are. If she wants to stay friends with the other guy, she also wants to have sex with him again. I suggest you dump her to the curb where she belongs. Sorry, but that the honest truth, Good Luck.
2006-09-12 14:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say take her back only if she promises to stay away from the guy she cheated with. If she loves you that much she'll do it. If not, throw her to the curb like the previous poster said.
2006-09-12 14:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by DMBthatsme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋