2006-09-12 07:18:07 · 30 answers · asked by ~kAyLeE~ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
hi sweetie how are ya? anyways, it's pretty tough to let ur parents know ur pregnant. Believe me i've been there. As a matter of fact im 7 months pregnant now. I sudest that you , in a very adult-like manner ask to speak to them and just let them know the truth. I kno its hard but it's for the best! Believe me! Good luck and let me kno how things turn out. P.S im proud of u for not thinking about an abortion.
2006-09-12 07:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by giggles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soon as possible. I don't know how old u are--but if ur 18 please talk to them A.S.A.P. There are so many young girls who are afraid to talk to their parents.They hide their pregnancy --they don't go in 4 pre-natal care. I read many times in the news how girls dumped babies afraid 2 talk to their parents. What is the worst they can do to you? Nothing.
Right now ur as grown (if ur under 18) as you will ever be. In a physical sense. Go to them and tell them what YOU want to do. This is your decision and yours only. There are many options today and whatever you choose u have 2 live with that. Let them know u will need their support if u keep it, put it up for adoption, or termination.If u plan on keeping it --get a job and take care of ur own. That's not their responsibility. Make sure this kids father
is involved from the start. It's his baby too.
Good Luck!
2006-09-12 07:49:11 · answer #2 · answered by BK1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sooner the better is the best advice for you. I too was in your shoes just a year ago. My b/f and I sat down with my parents and talked to them and they told us very maturely and civilly that they would help us as much as they could. The same reaction was for his parents as well. Both sets of parents took us in, in order to help us save some money for a home and to get our life started on the right track and not have us out in the streets. As of now, my husband now of 8 months and baby Mykel-just 4 months old are living with his (husband's) parents. It does get stressful from time to time, but it will only be for another few weeks-then we will have a place of our own. I just purchased a 3 bedroom and 2 1/2 bathroom townhome. Beautiful area and safe for the little one. So you don't have really anything to worry about AND if your step parents do get scared-just know that as soon as the little one is born their attitudes will change a whole 90 degrees for the better. Best of luck for you and your little blessing. If ever yu have any questions or anything-don't be afraid to let me know or ask me anything else. Take care and will be praying for you.
2006-09-12 07:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe start off by saying "I need your help and advice with something." This will make them feel more in control, like they have a say in the matter, rather than just being "victims" of what you say. And it will make them focus more on how they can help you, rather than just getting mad at you.
You could tell a trusted friend and have her go with you when you tell them, just for moral support.
One thing I have learned in my life is that it (whatever "it" may be) is NEVER as bad as you think it is going to be. Stop torturing yourself imagining what might happen and how they might react, say a little prayer if you want, take a deep breath, and get it over with. It won't be as bad as you think it will be. Everything's going to be okay.
Just some ideas. Good luck.
2006-09-12 07:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by LisaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you have a relationship with the baby's father, I would recommend you tell each of your parents together. It's always good to have some one to tell with you.
And even if you don't, just tell them. Try to be open, honest and mature. They may get angry or show a variety of emotions, but you have to face it head on when a baby is invovled. If you need help, or if you are afraid for your safety you can contact the Pregnancy Hotline for info on safehouses, outreach programs, medical assistance, etc.
http://www.thehelpline.org/
2006-09-12 08:06:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to be honest and then decide together (along with the childs father) what steps to take next. If you can not keep the child, adoption is a very good alternative. Good Luck!!
2006-09-12 07:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by flutter_butter_fly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Realize that this is not going to be "good" news for them, if you are unwed and a teen. It can be very emotional for them, and probably things may get nasty. If you are afraid to tell them, and their reaction, write a note to them. Tell them everything you want to tell them, including how you feel, how you think they will feel, and what your plans are. That way, you can tell your side of the story completely, and rehearsed, without interruption. Have them read it with you not there. (Otherwise, they are going to read the first sentence and erupt). Then get together, and cvry and rejoice, and plan.
Good luck.
2006-09-12 07:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go in an tell them - they want to help and know the truth -
Be honest and let them know the what you intend to do-
Why are so many people afraid of their parents - they have been through this type of situations - Speak UP and be Honest
2006-09-12 07:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. Or you could suggest going out to dinner and then tell them mid course so there is less yelling, fighting, and drama!
But if they love you then they will accept it and help you any way they can. The fear of thelling them and the fear of their reaction is much worse than what will actually take place.
Good Luck and {{{big hugs}}}
2006-09-12 07:22:09 · answer #9 · answered by slingnmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with the step mom, not only will it make her feel good that you are sharing with her, but she may be able to help guide you with telling your father. Good luck.
2006-09-12 07:21:04 · answer #10 · answered by preshus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋