Oh Wow..where do I start?! I just can't for the life of me find a true friend that's going to be there for me! I've had alot of people in the past backstabb me or betray me in some way....I can't understand why though....I'm a good friend to all my friend's I'm there for them when they need me, I get into trouble for them and all that...so much more, yet they never would do the same for me, they all tell me that they're going to be there for me but they're not! My best friend of 7 year's just stopped talking to me one day..never gave me a reason why! I welcomed her into my home, got her to go back to school, let her live with me when her mother kicked her out, took her lunch at work, got fired for because she needed me! and so much freakin more!!! I was more of a friend to her then anyone she's ever met, everyone called her a lost cause but I was there for her and believed in her, I loved her! we made a pact *We Laugh 2gether, Cry 2gether, and DIE 2gether* I riskd my life 4 her once!!
2006-09-12 07:02:16 · 11 answers · asked by ♥♥MicHeLLe♥♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
then she wasnt a real friend, as the saying goes "people take what they need then they tell you get lost" its true, and it hurts. but she wasnt a real friend, a real friend would put in 50% and would drop her life to be there for you, but you have a life and gettin fired over her is a little scarey, go out and mingle with co-workers or classmates (idk if ur in school or have a job) and go out to clubs (to dance and socialize) and you'll eventually find someone just like you out there, a true friend.
:o) chin up!
2006-09-12 07:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by Xavier's Mommy ツ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her about what happened between you two and explain how you feel even if things dont work out i believe that God puts us in people lives for a reason and to help others learn and grow from eachother. and sometimes when that reason is accomplished and the person we have helped has sucess from us we have to let them go. But dont be upset think about all the great things you did for her and how you helped her become the person she is now. You should feel good about yourself that your a careing enough person to take the time to help someone in need we need more people like that in this world! Good Luck and dont worry Believe in Karma What you give is what you get returned!
2006-09-12 07:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
:) here's the thing.... u were being the "good friend". u didn't do anything wrong. and u still aren't doing anything wrong.
*except*... u are not keeping your expectations High for your friends. u keep them for yourself, but not from your friends. u are pretty much Allowing them to act that way, and the more u forgive, the more you will be used, by someone who does not think the same as you. if ur friend really cared the way YOU do, she would NEVER have taken your kindness for granted. but she did..and that life lesson should teach you to choose more carefully who Deserves your friendship. the thing is, u are actually Reinforcing her Negative behavior...!! the more u Let her do those things, use you, the more she will do it, because she doesn't see any change. but if u had changed how you were, if u distanced yourself, if u told her what u thought, she would learn that her behavior is NOT acceptable, and she would either choose to change, or leave you high and dry. which, in either case, she DID ---- even tho u kept standing by her!!
therefore, what u need to do is, have expectations from yourself as a friend. u already do that, i can tell. now, u gotta have expectations from your Friends. and if they don't match up, u gotta let them go. for your own good, and for their own good. it is not good for them to be negatively reinforced, they have to learn, whether on their own, that the world is not going to baby them. remember, your friend had HIGH expectations from YOU, and you met them! but she didn't have expectations from herself, and that is where the relationship begins to fail.
good luck, and keep up the hard work in continuing ur quest to be a good person, good friend, someone who can be proud of what she stands for. ur not doing anything "wrong", but ur not seeking out Good, Positive, Healthy people to be ur friends either. do that, and u will see that Responsible people will do what is right. and Irresponsible person won't. you can't change how others think or do, but CAN change how YOU act and react to situations. once u realize that u already match up to what a good friend is, u'll understand that u've fulfilled those requirements..now it's the Friend's turn to do the same. good luck
2006-09-12 07:19:08 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The exact same thing happened to me and now I have only one friend from childhood a husband and five pets. I think sometimes when we get that close to a friend and we want that friendship so much we sacrifice ourselves in order to keep them happy so they will stay our friends. Maybe you are too good a friend and people tend to take advantage of that. You have a great heart and soul but others around you know they can make you do anything you want just to keep them as a friend.
2006-09-12 07:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends need to feel needed too. You sound like a perfect loving individual. If I had just one friend like you I wouldnt need any others!
I think since you give so much that they may feel you do not need them, maybe they feel since they cannot feel as if they contribute to the relationship you are better off without them.
It is difficult to specualte on someone elses feelings. But since this has happend before it leads me to believe there may be something wrong with you. And the only thing that seems like it could change would be your efforts. Give your friends room so that they can be a friend to you. Tell them YOU need them and you may be surprised.
Best of luck to you.
2006-09-12 12:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by IveBeenHereSinceYesturday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like she was just using you. keep being you and if they do not do the same for you quite doing the things you do slack off a little bit then they will see how much of a friend you are. I am like you a true friend i only have one friend that is a real friend back to me. It is hard to make friends like that my mom only has two friends that are like that.
so it is not easy to find friends who will be true back to you. Just hang in there you will find one im sure.
well good luck
2006-09-12 07:07:02 · answer #6 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are 95% giving in a friendship, there is only enough room for your friends to be 5% giving back to you. When you give less in a friendship, your friends will fill in the gap and give more in order to balance things out. You're not even giving them a chance to give more in the friendship. Why? Because YOU'RE doing it FOR them!
2006-09-12 07:06:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 22:24:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-12 07:05:21 · answer #9 · answered by luau 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing last forever, nothing in life is guaranteed.
2006-09-12 07:07:56 · answer #10 · answered by Stan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋