i was dating this guy my highschool sweetheart for almost 7 years we took a break for 6 months because he changed schools he came back because he did not like it and we got back together for three months. A girl from the other school that called him too say she was pregnant and he broke up with me to go marry her. Two weeks later i find out i am 2 1/2 months pregnant i told him so he knows i am. Unfortunatley his wife baby has some birth defect something to do with a serious heart problem. He took off and she keeps calling me to ask where he is? i told her i dont know but she keeps calling me!
2006-09-12 06:39:53 · 28 answers · asked by amanda h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the last time i saw him 2 weeks ago he helped me get a place to stay because at 6 months i cant stay in a dorm room anymore so i am living in an apartment with his buddy matt.
2006-09-12 06:40:14 · update #1
trying to be respectful because she is his wife but she is driving me crazy
2006-09-12 06:40:53 · update #2
no i was not the other woman!!
2006-09-12 06:44:49 · update #3
Change you number or file harassment charges against her. Tell her first though that you would like to know where he is also.
2006-09-12 06:42:38 · answer #1 · answered by midori1012001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel really bad for you. I'm sure that you are still in love with him and it hurt when he left to go to school, and it really hurt when he did an honorable thing and married the girl he got pregnant. He couldn't have known her for very long if he was gone just six months, but he did the right thing. NOW. He finds out you are pregnant as well, and I suppose he thinks his life is ruined. You guys sound really young, but all is not lost. Your child will have a sibling with the other woman, and sounds like they will be close to the same age. I would try to reason with her and let her know that this was not how you envisioned your life, but now this is what the two of you have to deal with. You didn't mention your parents or his parents and how they are dealing with this, but if I were you I would enlist the help of friends and family right now. And most importantly, when the weight of the world is weighing heavy on your heart, bend down and pray. God bless.
2006-09-12 14:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by karen W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've obviously got yourself a real catch there. Gets her pregnant, leaves to go to you, gets you pregnant, leaves to go marry her, finds out you're pregnant, leaves her to come back to you, gets you a place but doesn't stay with you. Yup, sounds like a really stable, commitment oriented guy who any woman would be happy to give up her college education for and have his baby. Wonder if he'll hide from you after he leaves and tell his wife, or new baby's mama, not to tell you where he is?
He can run but he can't hide, unless he never works again, which would be great news for someone who's about to have a child with him. The courts will track him down using his social security number.I hope he's got a really good paying job, so he can pay his wife child support and maintainance and still provide for you and his new baby.
Get back into school, or don't stop going, if you haven't already dropped out. You're going to need to learn to rely on yourself, as a single parent.
2006-09-12 13:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by IAINTELLEN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Jerry springer quick and make some money off of these relationships. Seriously this guy needs to decide who he's going to be with and then be with that person and pay child support to the other person because like it or not he now has 2 babies to support. Once the guy decides and makes it clear to all the situation should even out in time. Good luck.
2006-09-12 13:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by jljdc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is a loser for leaving his wife and ill child. I hope the only interaction that you have with him is a child support attorney. You would be stupid to have any other contact with him whether you have his child or not. You and the other Mom need to be helping each other out, not squabbling over some jerk that would do such a thing as leave a baby that HE made, that is sick and if you encourage him to do this you are just as bad.
2006-09-12 13:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by kathy r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when she calls explain
i will only speak with you only in a calm rational matter and if you cant do this i will hang up and block your number
id like to explain and or discuss some issuses i have if you are willing to let me speak without being interupted
tell you are infact pregnant as well and then what ever
and if she acts irrational hang up call the police and send her a certified letter telling her not call you again or legal action will be taken
and change your number
2006-09-12 17:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by Larelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth.
You are having his baby as well, do not know where he is and he will have the responsibility to both baby's and if you ever talk to him again, tell him to buy some condoms
wrap it or pay the price, twice in his case
2006-09-12 13:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by idtshadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to step the F off... youre in the position she was in months ago. She keeps calling.. block her #.
2006-09-12 13:44:37 · answer #8 · answered by Blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So now this guy is someone you want?
Oh well, just make sure he signs the birth certificate so you can get your share of the child support payments.
2006-09-12 13:51:00 · answer #9 · answered by Gone Rogue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change your phone number get it unlisted he knows where to find you call the police get them to tell her to stop and then if it comes to it get a restraing order cause if something happens to her baby you do not want her to come after you and yours good luck huh and you can email me anytime if you ever need someone to talk to or more advice
2006-09-12 13:50:02 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋