the thing is , my boyfriends parents built us a house and we are soppused to pay them back , when we can , its been about 3 yrs and we have started giving her some money for our kitchen cabinets, which is part of the house . well my boyfriends sister , is getting on our case about when are gonna start making house payments to her parents ! she told us her sob story about how much her mortgage is compare to us -
2006-09-12 06:35:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your soon to be mother-in-law has nothing to do with this situation. You and your boyfriend as a couple need to tell his sister to back off and stay out of your business.. Any business should be documented, even with family and kept between those people only.
What she pays for a mortgage has NOTHING to do with you. It does not matter who pays more for a car, mortgage or rent. No one cares and she is being too superficial. And what YOU pay for mortgage has NOTHING to do with her. That should be kept private between only the people who are on the legal papers.
You and your boyfriend needs to deal with the sister situation separately from the house issue, because they are two different issues.
2006-09-12 06:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is making these statements to you, try responding by saying this:
"And this is YOUR business HOW?!!!"
Then don't say anything else. Leave it at that.
Then let your fiance know what was said truthfully.
Don't say anything to the stb mother in law, that's just stirring up a kettle of fish. Keep it sweet and simple and walk away.
If the sisters want to make a big deal of it, then deal with it. Just remember to keep your calm and never get upset over petty squabbles within the family. Just let him handle it. They are after all, His parents, and that is his sister.
Stay out of HIS family squabbles.
Another thing you might try is telling her she is talking to the wrong person if she is saying these things to you. Tell her she needs to talk to her brother about it if it is bothering her so much, then be on your way.
good luck
2006-09-12 06:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by frankly2u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight-it's been 3 years and you are just NOW paying your soon to be in-laws some money for building your home?? That's kinda crazy. You are taking advantage of their generousity and THAT is what is probably ticking off your soon to be sister in law. Maybe she is privy to some info about her parents financial situation that you guys aren't. I agree with the other writer that said get a loan and pay your boyfriend's parents back ASAP. THEN it really is not any of her business.
2006-09-12 06:50:42 · answer #3 · answered by Romans12:2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You would better off living in a box than having to owe your parents or in-laws a mortgage. Seriously, either they give you the house with no strings attached or you should get financing through a bank and pay them back.
2006-09-12 06:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she paying her parents back as well, and did they build her home?
Tell the daughter to mind her own business, and inform the mother in law that, you guys can move and she can rent the place if its causing such "Hardship" in her family.
Believe me girl, you dont need the kind of inlaws, who make you regret anything they give you or hold it over your head becuase they did something for you. You'll never be able to do anything you want to do, because of all they have done for you.
2006-09-12 06:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend needs to tell his sister to mind her own business. He should also ask his parents to keep the house arrangement between the four of you, payments and all.
2006-09-14 16:19:39 · answer #6 · answered by Desiree S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you need to talk directly to your soon-to-be sister in-law. It might help to have the mother there also...and probably your fiance. They told you to pay them back when you could, it's a deal between you and your parent-in-laws...no one else. Let her know that she shouldn't be concerned with your financial business.
2006-09-12 06:39:57 · answer #7 · answered by angie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell the daughter straight out to mind her own business. In fact, if there are any problems, it should be brought up to your husband. I would figure out how much back rent you owe them and move out of the house.
2006-09-12 06:39:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a jealous biitch just tell her mother the truth and don't worry about her their is nothing you can do unless you want to go get a mortgage and pay them off if they don't mind what's going on then forget her.
2006-09-12 06:39:24 · answer #9 · answered by G-man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell the mother-in-law, you tell the daughter to mind her own business. Otherwise you are inviting a family fued that might last for years to come.
2006-09-12 06:38:16 · answer #10 · answered by Emm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋