i was dating this guy my highschool sweetheart for almost 7 years we took a break for 6 months because he changed schools he came back because he did not like it and we got back together for three months. A girl from the other school that called him too say she was pregnant and he broke up with me to go marry her. Two weeks later i find out i am 2 1/2 months pregnant i told him so he knows i am. Unfortunatley his wife baby has some birth defect something to do with a serious heart problem. He took off and she keeps calling me to ask where he is? i told her i dont know but she keeps calling me!
2006-09-12 06:31:36 · 14 answers · asked by amanda h 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
the last time i saw him 2 weeks ago he helped me get a place to stay because at 6 months i cant stay in a dorm room anymore so i am living in an apartment with his buddy matt.
2006-09-12 06:34:35 · update #1
for your information i was on the pill when this happened!!
2006-09-12 06:36:02 · update #2
Wow. You need to sit & have a talk with him. Bad. Perhaps you should cut your loses & move on. Just my opinion...
2006-09-12 06:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by IMHO 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK.Where do I start? If her child had a birth defect then u need to advice ur doctor. THAT"S FIRST OK? Next, there is a lack of real women in the world. I consider myself as one of the few there are. If I was in your position, I would accept conversation with the chick anytime due to the fact that these children will be siblings. There isn't anything I would be able to do for her but be a friend and sometimes that is all we be needing,right? Don't turn her down even tho u don't owe her anything. Put urself in her shoes......Him on the other hand, where is he?????On the cool tho, if he left u once and now he has left his wife and baby, sweetie, he is a LOSER!Put his a** on child support and tell her to also. He will be required to put health coverage on the baby due to the situation at hand and if ya'll need it holla at me cause I promote health insurance and can put u down with it on an affordable rate.
2006-09-12 06:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by menyauna s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what he did is not illigal, so the police will not do anything. Sounds like he's just freaking out because of the situation that he has made for himself.
You really should have sympathy for that other women, it is hard enough to be a single mother-let alone to care for a child with medical problems.
You're really being selfish to think that you can break ties off with this women. You are carrying her child's sibling, don't you think years from now, your child would like to have a relationship with his sibling? Be honest with her, whether you want to or not, tell the guy he needs to step up and be a man.
2006-09-12 06:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is continue to telll this woman that you don't know where he is. Offer to call her should he show up or contact you. As for your growing little one, you need to make a choice about whether or not you plan to be a single parent. Talk to you doctor about your options and they can point you in the right direction for whatever choice you make. I would not plan for the father to be involved. If he does end up being there for you and your baby then great, but if you plan how your will manage without him you will do just fine.
2006-09-12 06:46:15 · answer #4 · answered by Meesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats really sad, but honestly dont stress out about that guy. if he left his other girl because her baby had a defect, how do you know he wont do the same to you? talk to this other girl, she might be the best support system. sure she had a baby with the man you "loved" but you cant blame her because she is in the same situation that you are in. both of you should get child support from him. if he is man enough to go get two girls pregnant then he needs to stand up and be man enough to take care of both of his babies.
2006-09-12 06:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by tru_blu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems your having a bad time and his wife he left her because the baby had a heart problem wow thats so sad when she rings you again tell her straight hes the one that left her its nothing to do with you you dont no where he is
2006-09-12 07:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your phone number or call the cops and file a phone harrasement report. Tell her you are doing this and hopefully she lays off. And quick...you shouldn't be stressing being pregnant. Good luck hon.
2006-09-12 06:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by nic_tammyscott 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's with you , you need to tell him to man the hell up and take care of that kid. If he's not with you just let her know. If she keeps calling change your number or block her number
2006-09-12 06:34:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to say feel sad for both ou you ladies.
I hope he shows up there's nothing you can do if you don't know where he is.
2006-09-12 06:34:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that but what ever you do, DO NOT consider abortion. Have the baby its going to be your little angel..
2006-09-12 06:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by Jorgio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋