I know both the husband and wife and it is just eating me up as to what to do in this case. She comes from a broken home, full of abuse and sexual misconduct by her parents. I see a pattern of sexual misconduct on her part as well. I think the husband needs to know, I just do not know how to approach him about her affairs. I have proof, what do you think I should do, help.
2006-09-12 05:54:56 · 28 answers · asked by moreshok 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Snitch.
2006-09-12 05:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a rough one! I am inclined to say you need to stay out of it. On the other hand, it's very dangerous in these times to be in a marriage where the partner is sleeping around. It could cause the husband to be infected with an STD and it could be as serious as getting him murdered if one of her contacts decides the husband needs to be out of the way. What to do? What to do? I guess I'd have to tell him that I was concerned for his well-being and safety but I'd be very sure I had proof to show him that could not be refuted.
2006-09-12 06:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not touch that with a ten foot pole - this is not your business - even though they are your friends they want be for long if you start interfering in their marriage - he may also be having an affair to - ever thought about that - They may have a private understanding with each other - they can have the best of both worlds- enjoy your friends - but stay out of this one
2006-09-12 06:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless you are asked, it's none of your business. Besides, you don't know the husband doesn't know and just chooses to live with blinders on because it's better than living without her. Maybe this is a part of their marriage they have an agreement about for some reason they don't feel is necessary to tell you about. So butt out unless you are asked to butt in!
2006-09-12 06:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by Tina R 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever heard the saying "No good deed goes unpunished"? Well, I know your intentions are good, but the outcome will be very bad for you honey. She's going to resent you for telling and he may resent you just because he's married to her and spouses stick together. I know it's eating you up, but in all honesty, it's none of your business. For all you know, the hubby may be aware of what is going on. Unless you plan on dropping some anonyomous letter in the mail, I'd stay out of it.
2006-09-12 06:01:00 · answer #5 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
unless either one of them r ur dear friends then u need to mind ur own business.. nothing good comes out of ruining someone else's marriage.. u have no idea what they r going through or why.. u don't even know if the husband is cheating.. u need to get ur nose out of other peoples business and lives...
it's not ur place.. u must be lonely that u had to go and get proof that she's cheating.. how is her cheating affecting u besides the fact thay ur just being nosey and want to come to someones rescue.. ur gonna wind up being hated..
mind ur own business
2006-09-12 06:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should first sit her down and give her the option of telling her husband or you will. IT's not fair that you are caught in the middle. This might give her the chance to fess up and let her hubby know. If she doesn then I would go and tell. It's a hard place to be in because you may loose her friendship but if you dont tell him and he finds out you may loose his.
2006-09-12 05:58:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
TELL - it's the least you can do! You may loose a friend over it, but I think you'll also gain one. What kind of proof do you have, if it's pics, mail them to him, certified mail where he is the only one that can sign for it. That way, he's not taking your word for it, he'll see it for himself - if you don't have pics, how else would you have proof? Your word against hers would be laughed out of "court"!
2006-09-12 06:02:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if don't tell him and he finds out you knew you have just lost a friend....if you do tell him he is going to be upset. But he may have an idea, about what is going on just has not wanted to confront it. Also there are some many things out there STD's, HIV what if she catches this and doesn't know it...so to protect your friend I say yes. Its going to be hard, but if you really think about it if it was you would you want to know.
2006-09-12 06:02:27 · answer #9 · answered by Just another day 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs to know. Maybe you could let him know without him knowing the info is coming from you. Like an anonymous letter. Even if he doesn't believe it, it will make him think twice the next time she comes home late.
2006-09-12 05:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is your problem, how? Not family, correct? Even if it is, do you want to be the bad guy? You should probably start spending more time on your own relationships instead of being the nosey one in others.
2006-09-12 06:01:59 · answer #11 · answered by Sausage Fingers™ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋