In Europe and other parts of the world,it is the norm.In the USA,these people are considered 'losers'.I don't get it.
By the way,I am in the USA,41,and live with my husband and 4 children.I have not lived with my parents for 20 years now,but really see nothing wrong with it if that is what the person chooses,they help pay bills,the parents don't mind,etc.
What do you think?
2006-09-12 05:50:36 · 9 answers · asked by MaryBeth 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I said 'norm in Europe' because I have been told that by European natives,read about it,etc.(especially Italy.)
2006-09-12 06:04:05 · update #1
If they are there to be a help to their parents..AND they are paying ALL of their own bills - completely supporting their own self (and not sponging and milking off their parents)..and paying their FAIR share of all of the utilities..there is nothing wrong with it...I guess...however, I think they normally get a bad rap because many are NOT paying their own bills or supporting theirself..and they are draining their parents of every dime they have...I'm sure you would not see that as being "okay" in any sense of the word. They are more than losers..they are users. Too many of 'em today like that. I can understand if they are still in college - but even THEN they need to be paying the bills.
I was on my own at 17 and never borrowed a dime and put myself through college, etc. etc. My son move out at 21 after he was done with college and has lived completely self-sufficient ever since...which is how it should be. Nothing wrong with a rare and occasional LOAN...as everyone has some rough spots...but sponging off your parents through your 30s and even 40s...has a LOT wrong with it. I'm afraid that that is the case the majority of the time.
2006-09-12 05:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is such a big deal because of the fact that people think you turn 18 you should be out on that day. Of course, there are some circumstances when you need to go ahead and get out of your parents house. Like when you have kids, don't bring a bunch more people in your parents house. As long as you aren't bothering them though, I suppose it is ok. Let your mom be a nurturer for a little longer if you want.
2006-09-12 05:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by asker 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont think its a big deal to live with your parents or alone at any age. It is not a matter where you contribute with the bills or not. The important stuff is to be concscious of the importance of that institution called family. You can live far from your parents but you respect the family is ok. You can live with your parents but are not enough tolerant with them that is not ok at all.
2006-09-12 06:13:06 · answer #3 · answered by mfacio 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. Most of the adult children in the European or South American countries are not dependant on the parents, and are instead just sharing a building because housing is in short supply.
In the US, the stigma is attached to those children who are still dependent on their parents, and don't move out because they have nowhere else to go and often no way to support themselves.
2006-09-12 05:58:55 · answer #4 · answered by coragryph 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
EVERY SITUATION IS DIFFERENT... IN EUROPE IT HAPPENS SOMETIMES BECAUSE PARENTS ARE VERY OLD WHEN THEIR CHILDREN REACH THOSE AGES, AND THEY HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF THEIR PARENTS...THAT`S OK, WE UNDERSTAND, BUT THERE ARE OTHER GUYS THAT ARE JUST LAZY AND DON`T WANT TO GET A REAL JOB, BUY A CAR , A HOUSE OR START A LIFE, BECAUSE THEY ARE WAITING FOR THEIR PARENTS TO DIE TO GET THOSE THINGS FROM THEM...THAT IS LAME.
2006-09-12 06:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by fireangel 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because if a person is living with their parents how are they supposed to grow and learn about the world and how things work?
2006-09-12 05:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by shirley e 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not. Hell, if the parents don't WANT a life, more power to them.
2006-09-12 05:54:41 · answer #7 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
norm in europe?????!!!!!!!!..........i'm from europe and trust me at 18-19 you fly out of the nest
2006-09-12 06:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by oana 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Beats me. It's economically far better to do that!
2006-09-12 05:54:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋