If you disliked her enough to leave her, why would you want to go back? I don't understand why my husband left, he won't really say. Now he wants to come back. I don't think that I want him. Seems like lack of respect for myself if I take him back. I am just trying to understand the male mind here. Thank you.
2006-09-12 05:43:32 · 12 answers · asked by jenna b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He was gone for eight months. We have two kids so we did have some communication about them every now and then.
2006-09-12 05:48:11 · update #1
My dad left my mom and watned to come back -- its the grass is greener on the otherside concept. it looked nice to get out but when all was said and done, and he was alone, all of the sudden he wanted her back. If you can forgive AND forget (the forgeting is the hard part) then let him back -- if not. move on. someone needs to learn how to treat you the way you deserve. if he has this much of lack of respect for you now -- imagine it ten years down the road -- good luck!
2006-09-12 05:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I left her because I didn't appreciate her and took her and my son for granted. It wasn't until almost a year after we had been separated and my infatuation was over for the other woman, that I realized how wrong I was. In my case I REALLY was sorry for the pain I had caused my family, I asked for her forgiveness and after a while we got back together. I have never cheated on my wife again and never will. You can only make this type of mistake once, twice is taking advantage. My wife and I have had more children since and are happier than ever. I am so grateful for the chance my wife gave me to show her that I could be trusted again.
Look within yourself and see if you still love him, if you do then talk to him and see if he is really sorry for his mistake. We usually don't know what we have till we loose it! Good luck with your decision, I will be praying for your family.
2006-09-12 06:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by Archangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's back because his new girlfriend dumped him and he has nowhere else to go.
I'd go through with a divorce and then decide if you want to try again. I know it sounds stupid, but you have to be harsh sometimes in life. Then, If you want him, you can start over with a new beginning and he'll know what to expect if he ever acts like an idiot again. Give him a real taste of how life will be without you. That way you can you can save face and not look like you took him back so easily. You can stand up for yourself in front of your kids. Don't come off as a door mat to your kids.
What will come out of this is a life lesson to your children on what their mother is really made of. If you have daughters, you will be training them on how to demand respect from their men when they enter into relationships of their own.
2006-09-12 05:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by Pam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is probably right in front of you. Nonetheless, you both need to seek counseling to hash out this problem. Do you have kids? That's a reason to come back. But only he can tell you why. Male minds don't think alike.
2006-09-12 05:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they always want what they can't have...If you have someone and everything is all good Some people just get tired of that and want something new...Once they get out of there and see how things really are out there they want to come back to the good life again...I wouldn't take him back..He will keep on doing this if you let him..
2006-09-12 05:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by ?Whiskey Girl? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife left me. but i followed and waited for her for 3 1/2 years. trust me when i say that she put me through hell, and it was/is hard to forgive her. understanding the male mind is way to generalized. try to just understand him. the problem with getting back together is this, most people do not want to forget the past, causing problems with their future. if you do love him, and he does love you, there is much respect and honor in trying to continue a relationship. think about it. (if you have siblings) could you handle living everyday with your mother, father, sister, or brother? it is never easy, nor perfect. just follow your heart, your intuition.
2006-09-12 05:56:45 · answer #6 · answered by ricie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want him back then don't know why did he leave you in the first place should be the reason in your head. Go with what you feel if you have kids with him then try to settle it. Good Luck
2006-09-12 05:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by Scooby_doo06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible he met someone else, left you to be with her and then it didn't work out or she dumped him ? That's the only thing I can think of. If you dont want him back then dont take him back. Who knows if one day he will decide to leave again.
2006-09-12 05:45:36 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok woman piont of veiw(They relize what they let go). But u should stand your ground. Tell him the way things have to be. There has to be a reason he left. Woman never foget. So if you have moved on mabey theres no reason to go back but kids have a way of getting parents back together.
2006-09-12 05:47:27 · answer #9 · answered by SEXY MAMI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing I did for my relationship was seek counseling because it always helps to have a professional helping you through your questions and problems. Tell your husband that you aren't taking him back unless he goes to counseling with you.
2006-09-12 05:47:48 · answer #10 · answered by curly98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋