Would i be able to leave this mistake of a marriage, without cheating? #2: Would it be wrong if i dont tell him im giving birth to our baby untill after it is done, because he gave me the thought that he did not want to be there. He said his mother will be there , he might be working or at school when im having the baby. every person i talk to says to leave him,but im scared he might make it hard for us to end this marriage . i will have problems the rest of my life with who can watch the baby and when. i trust no one with a newborn untill the baby reaches a year old. or older
2006-09-12 05:42:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a very hard place to be in. First of all,if he hasn't cheated, and neither have you, there is still hope that the problem/problems can be resolved. I would try talking to a christian counselor if he doesn't want to come along, go anyways. Unless he has threatened you, or you are scared of him, you should talk to him and tell him how you feel. If he loves you he should be willing to make some changes also to make this marriage work. Marriage takes alot of hard work from both parties.
The bible says that the husband should love the wife, as Christ loves the church. That is alot of love... I pray that God will guide you through this time, and that you will find yourself in God's will for your life. Good luck with everything
2006-09-12 06:04:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, you cannot divorce him while you are pregnant. But you certainly can leave him anytime you get ready. From a Christian point of view, you should only leave him as a last option, such as, he will not help correct whatever is wrong in the marriage or you just cannot love him again. Can his mother watch the baby or, if your husband loves and wants the baby, can he watch the baby during the first year? If you are needing to work or go to school, the only other option is taking your child to daycare. If this is the option you have to live with, just really do your research on the daycare and ask for lots of references who have newborns. Also, if you need financial assistance, there is food stamps, housing, WIC, and the head-start program (daycare). Good luck in making your decision.
2006-09-12 12:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by RKC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A child is a very serious resposibility .I have 2 and have been divorced 2 times.My husband was not on the same page. If they are not on board through it all, get rid of him no matter what the consequeces may be. Our God is a forgiving God. He will never put on ou more than you can handle.I have raised 2 on my own and you can do it . If he does not want the baby then God will send you someone that will. But remember this happens in his time not ours. Good Luck!
2006-09-12 12:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by Candace D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him, tell him that ya'll are having a baby, him like it or not! if your having unprotected sex, than he shouldn't have nothing wrong with it, cause it looks like he would want one......... yes he can make you life hard, because you share a kid with him, and he can try to get it, it's ok to trust some people with your baby! but make sure you know them, and know that they are able, and know how to take care of a newborn, cause if you do leave him, then you will need a job, and get child support from him, tell him how you feel, and if he don't want what you want, a life together, with a newborn, than tell him to leave.......good luck, and i wish you the best, I'll keep you in my prayers....... congregations on the baby!
2006-09-12 12:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by miss.d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't start the babies life already being used as a way for you to get your way before it is even born. You have done all the work with the pregnancy but if it wasn't for him you wouldn't be pregnant with this child. give him the opportunity to become a father even if yall don't stay together! If you cheat on him then that is on YOU!
2006-09-12 12:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by DC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hhmm. You're married. He hasn't cheated. Unless you actually fear your lives you should tell him. Maybe he is just scared. Maybe he will change his mind. He deserves to know though. He could take off school or work.....it does sound rude what he said. BUT he could just be scared. I think you should tell him and try to work it out. Your probably a little bit scared too. Have you got someone on your side that is there for you...church, mom, sis someone like that? You need someone. Best of luck. I think its gonna be a girl.
2006-09-12 12:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by rainsparrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get in touch with Planned Parenthood in you area.
They deal with issues like this all the time and have the resources to point you to the correct people who can help you with all these decisions and problems you are facing.
Clergymen or women simply don't normally have the education or experience in all these matters to provide you with a good broad based method of dealing with these problems.
Good Luck.
2006-09-12 12:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by Dick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating is one thing -leaving an unhappy marriage is another- if he doesn't want to be a part of the baby's life that is his problem- everything else will work out for you -stay positive
2006-09-12 12:46:42 · answer #8 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be perfectly fine to not tell him until after the baby is born. You do what you need to do to make you happy. Can you move farther away from him so you don't have to see him all the time? Good luck.
2006-09-12 19:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you owe him the chance to become a good father. When he knows it's for real, you 2 might be able to work it out. Ask God to direct your decision and He will.
2006-09-12 12:46:53 · answer #10 · answered by mimi22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋