My boyfriend and I have different plans when we graduate from college, but we've been together for almost 4 years and plan on graduating in May.
2006-09-12 05:36:15 · 20 answers · asked by Tall-N-Unique 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
For the love of god wait!
No offense, but when you graduate it is an entirely different world. One in which you may not share the same circumstances any longer.
You may be on a wierd schedule workwise and not see each other enough. One of you may have to move for a job. One of you might be like me and make a little money and start hitting the bars with some buddies and meet other girls who are interested. Who knows? Whats the rush? There is time here. Might as well get established, concentrate on a career, and then decide on when to get hitched if you are still both on the same page a few years down the road.
College dating factors in almost zero life experiences. You don't have to worry about money or housing or buying food. Just partying and studying...so its like all fun and no work in the relationship. Lots of couples fight about money and that is one of the first hurdles you will need to clear. You will be getting an apartment and buying all the things you need to live now. How will all this affect your relationship? Is he going to be the same guy in "real life". Take your time.
2006-09-12 05:44:34 · answer #1 · answered by Morty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We met might of 2006, moved in jointly March of 2007, and have been given married January 26, 2008. My husband and that i lived jointly for 10 months till now we've been given married. We have been engaged for decrease than approximately 4 or 5 months till now we ultimately stated I do. Our relationship is quite stable and we are head over heels in love with one yet another. we've purely been married for some twelve months nonetheless and function an 11 month previous and that i'm 33 weeks pregnant with #2. We knew we'd have enjoyed to be jointly so there replaced into rather no factor of waiting any further. =) we are the two 23...i would be 24 in September and him in October.
2016-11-07 04:23:45 · answer #2 · answered by garion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your plans include marriage, you've been together long enough. My husband and I were together less than a year when we got engaged and had been talking about marriage from like month 4. We were together for 2 1/2 years before we got married. If ya'll have talked about it seriously, ya'll have been together long enough.
When we got engaged, I told my friend about it, and she began talking to her boyfriend of like 3 years, and he told her that he plans on getting married some day, but she is not the girl he sees himself marrying. They were in a serious relationship, had been living together for like 2 years. To him, she was convienient...got sex, and a roomate all in one. Make sure your guy is serious or quit wasting your time with him, like my friend did.
2006-09-12 05:44:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation, but I'd say at the very least two years. I had a high school friend who told her boyfriend she would marry him until she graduated college. After her eight years of college, they finally got married.
2006-09-12 05:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by michaelyoung_airforce 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live together for 2 years before you marry. In 2 years time you will know if you want to get married or not.
2006-09-12 05:38:40 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't just get married because you have been together for four years, you get married because you are deeply in love with each other. It's good to know that you were waiting to have a college education, but you both need to decide what you want to do about your relationship. You need to talk to him about it. Most importantly is that you have similar goals for your future.
2006-09-12 05:42:51 · answer #6 · answered by curly98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you should be together for two years. I think you need to know the persons habits, and understand that you will take the good along with the bad. Marraige is about compromise. Good luck though and if you do get married I wish you the best.
2006-09-12 05:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by asker 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u 2 have different plans from eachother it doesnt sound like u 2 mean alot to eachother if u want to be together and get married so bad.if u go to college and he stays home u 2 will never get back together its just how it happens one person spreads their wings and the other becomes a let down
2006-09-12 05:39:34 · answer #8 · answered by Førsâkëñ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
every relationship is different... there is no set time b4 getting married. you have to do what is right for both of you. I know a couple who just celebrated their 25th anniversary, and they married after knowing eachother 3 months.... I also know a couple who dated 4 yrs b4 getting married... you'll know when the time is right.
2006-09-12 05:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years is probably long enough. I would say anywhere from 6 months to a year, minimum.
2006-09-12 05:37:34 · answer #10 · answered by Bors 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋