Man Problems?

Question

Ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years and it seems like evrything is changing for us, he hardly tells me he loves me anymore, we hardly kiss anymore, sex is now quickies,and we hardly spen ay alone time together, If there is a hot girl on TV he always makes comments to me and he is a buisness owner and I do his reciepts every month and hes been eating alot at Hooters. I feel alone and very depressed and I dont know what to do in this situation, we live together and have for 3 years he's 31 and Im 33. What should I do?

Answer 1

you are the best person to know what you should do about ur situation. you are the one involved. if u have been with him for four years u should be able to tell why his behaviour has changed over time. maybe things are really coming to an end/not working but u are still there lying to yourself, telling urself that something else is the issue. the next best thing to do is to ask him directly what is happening. dont beat around the bush. if u say this is affecting u so much then u have to be straight about it. also going to everyone looking for some kind of comfort will not solve anything nor will crying over it do. like i said u and only u know what is really going on so u decide what to do based on what u think would be best for u

Answer 2

Sometimes we call problems something else then what it really is. You call it man problems, but you have failed to say what if anything you might of done to not only bring this relationship to this point, but what have you done to try to fix it.

Do you get dressed up for him any more? Have you cooked a great meal, so that maybe he would not have to go out to eat? If he says lets go do "this" have you been, "no I'm not in the mood to do that", and then never give a time when you maybe? Then kill everything he says to do as well, so he is always doing what you want most of the time?

Men normally change as our women change, so please take a look at maybe things you are doing that are different from 4 years ago. Is everything a "pain" now for you to do? Is the sex fast now due to you just wanting to get it out of the way many times before, or are you wearing something cute to bed? It takes two (or more lol) to have great sex and as men if we are told a lot of times "OK, but can you hurry it up I have to be up in the morning" or some other reason then yes we are going to get use to being done fast, so that not to make it so we won't get it at all any more. Just remember you will normally set the pace, so say or do something if you want it to last longer since it was you at one time who told him more then once to hurry up. That maybe you had other plans or things to do.

Now to help, if possible lets restart this. Make some plans to go some where that both of you would like to spend some time, and get to "renew and review" your relationship or plans. You be the hot girl with some hot plans, rock his world! This will not only help you shake this depression that you are feeling, but also get you both out of this rut that the both of you have been. If you can not get away then stay home for a weekend, unplug the phone and spend this time with nothing else but each other. Make the sex last, buy or revisit some of those out fits from four years ago.

You need to stop waiting for him, and saying to yourself that it is all him, review the few thing that I have asked you to think about and if I am right make those changes. If you think I am wrong I am very sorry, but I know as a man I always normally follow the lead of the woman in my life, so could this be possible? Good luck

Answer 3

what it sounds like is the fire is burning out. Lost of attraction don't feel heart broken this tends to happen to a lot of couples. However this is an issue that must be address if not infidelity will come strolling right into your relationship. This is something that needs to be done together, he needs to know that there is something wrong. Do not address the issue like an argument its not his fault nor is it yours but understand that there is a problem that needs to be nipped in the butt.

Trying to spice up the sex always helps also do things differently. My biggest advice that I would stress though is discuss the matter see if it is worth it.

Answer 4

well, there are two ways to deal with a man like yours. Either you can decide now to settle for a man who does not love you as you should or. you can try something some woman might frown upon. Because he is interested in other woman, you must bring his eye back to you! Do you work out? Are you fit? If no, then begin to workout and watch what you eat. don't just play around with this ...really do it so you can have a a body that shows results!!!!! Next, start tanning. I know its not good for your skin but he will enjoy it. Dress in the styles he notices. Have fun with it! Do all of these things and it will catch his eye! And just as he is craving you to no end tell him how much he has hurt you and left you feeling lonely and sad. Tell him of how much you loved him and wanted to spend time with him.Speak to him from your heart.....then walk away from him because you deserve someone who will love you for you!!! You deserve a man who wants to take care of you and love you!
The exercising, eating right and tanning will help to boost your ego and that never hurts!

Answer 5

put ur foot down. what do u want?? what kind of man do u want? and what kind of relationship do u want?? obviously the situation u are in is NOT your "dream" relationship =T.

here's what u need to do: first of all, what are you doing? are u a good girlfriend? are u committed, loving, caring, sweet, affectionate? do u make sure u are attractive? do u take care of your looks, ur confidence, ur mind? do u satisfy his wants and needs? first make sure you are a Great Catch.

next, if you are a Great Catch, and u are proud of it.... WHY are u letting this guy treat u like this?? don't u deserve a Great Catch too? a man who takes care of his woman, who treats her well, who satisfies her wants and needs? who makes sure he is attractive, smart, committed, caring...? u have to Teach him what kind of man u want, and he needs to become that man IF he wants to stay w/ you.

1) if he doesn't do it, he doesn't want to be w/ you, OR he's not worth it. either way, u gotta let him go. u can do better

2) if he's willing to try, then give him a chance to treat u better. perhaps he is settling into being comfortable, and ur pretty much LETTING him treat u like this, that's why he's doing!!

3) communicate w/ eachother, perhaps he feels u aren't doing ur part either...?

anyways, no matter what, this is a problem. u need to have expectations from urself as a woman and Girlfriend, from your partner as a man and Boyfriend, and from the Relationship..is he marriage material? are u marriage material? figure it out before u keep wasting ur time. and remember this rule: after 1 1/2 years, u should KNOW whether or not this person is the one u want to MARRY. u don't have to Get married at that mark (due to monetary reasons, etc), but u have to KNOW for sure if he is the one u want to work with and be with for the rest of ur life. if ur not sure, after 4 years....there is something wrong, and u MAY be wasting ur time. isn't it worth it to find out if there is something salvegable? it takes RESPECT, COMMITTMENT, LOVE, CARE, COMMUNICATION, TRUST, & APPRECIATION... u have to have all those things, so does ur partner, and USE it to fuel ur relationshp to continuously grow and learn about eachother. if u don't do this, ur relationship becomes stagnant, and u end up taking eachother for granted, etc. =T. its' up to u to stay, but if i were u i'd make sure he's worth my time.

Answer 6

It kinda sounds like he is into the Sexual things and you are not involved in it, and or along with all of that he could have another women on the side. Try and sit down and talk to him and see if there is anything you guys can resolve if not then you need to move on... SORRY!! But hope things work out for the better...

Answer 7

You're totally wrong, so why should thinks work? What should you do? You should get a clue.

You're living with a man you're not even married to for 4 years and he tells you he loves you in a shallow way and you're upset when "he stops." You say that sex is now quick, but what in the world were you doing having it in the first place?

Please, see a non-liberalized shrink.

Answer 8

Ok i will give u a couple things for this.

First off, u can call me, and get the Loving of your life,

or

You can spice up your relationship, one normal day when he gets home, jump on him wearing nothing but a thong and bra, and when hes on the floor or your on the bed, pull his pants down and go down on him for about a minute or two, then get on top and ride him till hes about to ***, then let him *** in your mouth, when that happens look up at him, swallow it, and turn around and say come on baby time for round two. this will have him going crazy, men love the feeling of a porno. lol so nasty and raw is basically that.

Answer 9

Sit down and talk to him.

Do you initiate things or wait for him? Tell him what you want. Ask him what he wants. Maybe you guys have simply grown apart but are both too comfortable with each other to end things and start something new.

Answer 10

Tell him how you are feeling. The key to a good lasting relationship is communication. Maybe he is feeling the same way and does not know how to approach you about it, so his outlet is eating out more. Just talk to him!