i split with my boyfriend two months ago and we are now getting on better then we did before.the reason we split up was because he cheated on me. should i take him back if he still loves me?
2006-09-12 05:22:32 · 29 answers · asked by Laura 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
in a word no but only you know what you really want i did it and couldnt trust him so i ended up leaving him anyway. if he really is sorry then go for it but on your terms and slowly start over forget the past and get to know each other again you might realise he's not what you really want! good luck xx
2006-09-12 05:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by sambb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not unless you know the reason why he cheated in the first place. If he has explained to you fully why he cheated and was honest,truthful and you believe him 100% then you can work on it but do not jump straight back give it time. They say once a cheat always a cheat however it does depend on the state of your relationship prior the split and if he has ever done it before.If he has done it before stay well clear he will do it again. If it was first time then you both need to talk about why it happened in the first place. If he has not told you then ask him what was it that made him so unhappy about your relationship that made him look else where. It is hard I know but if you want to be with him then it has to be from the start open, honest and you need the true or it will bug you and cause problems. I hope that helped in some small way god luck.
2006-09-12 12:38:13 · answer #2 · answered by momof3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has realised his mistake and he has asked for forgiveness, you should forgive him and give him another chance. Its very easy to accuse and illtreat someone who committed a mistake, and this is done by every common human. But to forgive one's mistake needs lot of courage and gut and this can be done only by very special person who has indeed a very big heart. By forgiving, I mean you should forget forever whatever mistake he has done and never use it as a weapon on him if ever you get any problem with him in the future, and give him a new opportunity. So, show him that you have indeed a very kind heart and just say :"You are forgiven" without adding any further word, and start afresh again. By doing so, you will get more esteem in his eyes and will respect you more for that. If he understands the word humanity, he will nevr dare to cheat you again. If he does, then you leave him!
2006-09-12 12:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by Goldenheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has changed from the cheating instance that causes you're second round? Is he committed to the relationship and can you find the forgiveness that you denied? If your gut tells you yes than give the forgiveness but be cautious so you don't get your face used as a skid plate again!
2006-09-12 12:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry love to say if you take him back well hope you are really happy to do so,will he not mess you around again are you sure of that.the break between you was good but looks like the other one don't want to know so he's coming back to you.lost maybe with his tale between his leg's.love just make sure your not being fooled.don't let no man treat you like your nothing.you deserve better love,don't let no one tell you different.i love you for thinking of forgiving him,but the hurt will still be nagging.and he's had one over you.so be careful your not the weak one here i know it in me heart.so i wish you the best of happiness life has there for you and a big hug love be safe.
2006-09-12 12:35:20 · answer #5 · answered by mariolla oneill 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much do you love him? Do you know anything about his past prior to dating you? If he has a history of this with others there is no way I would take him back that is a pattern that he is almost going to have to have counseling to stop, but if this is a once in life thing I would probably give him another, (But only one more) chance.
2006-09-12 12:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by sweet smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are already out, don't get back in... TRUST ME. it will never end, its a vicious cycle... He cheats, you split, he keeps in touch, checks on you to see how u r doing, tells you he's an @ss..BLAH BLAH you start to get along, better & better, BAM your back together...now best case senerio, he cheats again...worst he cheats again, feels insecure and now wants to keep you under lock and key cause he doesn't want you to pay him back. Then you find out again, and it starts all over...next thing you know, your engaged, and MISERABLE. you resent him for what he has done...but somehow you cannot let go...he did this to you...
2006-09-12 12:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by ladyjno7 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ive been cheated on before and i have never taken any one of my exes back coz i believe that u should never go back it just goes to show that u always miss what you lose, but everyone is different so if you ove him and think that his a changed man than go for it but if u feel u dont trust him enough than stay just as friends u may become best friends
2006-09-12 15:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by sarah E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on you then he doesn't love you. If you take him back he will cheat again, maybe not at first, but he will cheat again. Also it will be on your mind permenantly and do your head in.
Once the trust has gone forget it.
2006-09-12 12:47:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's up to you. I doubt he only cheated once. Cheaters usually do it a few times before they are caught. Since you aren't married I would stay by myself or find another boyfriend.
2006-09-12 12:26:39 · answer #10 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋