than to have never loved at all, would you use the same term for a battered wife, or abused partner?
2006-09-12 05:15:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no, no-one deserves to put up with physical or mental abus from anyone
2006-09-12 05:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never! YEs, love is a great experience whether it is lost or still with you. But being abused was never love in the first place. Those women were abused as a child in some way and nothing was done about it so they grow up to attract that type of guy. I only hear people use that phrase who haven't loved and lost yet.
2006-09-12 05:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the crap they tell you when you've lost. It doesn't make you feel any better. Time will. As for the battered wife/abused partner, this doesn't apply b/c those situations do not have love in them.
2006-09-12 05:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wouldn't in the literal interpretation of your question: "Is is better to have been battered and survived than to never have been battered at all." That's a bit stupid.
But somehow, I don't think that is what you meant.
If you meant that a battered wife who had been in love was better for having been in love and failed, well, yes, I think so, for she was able, at one brief time to have savored the taste of love.
That is, considering and assuming that the relationship was, at one time, a mutually loving relationship.
Going back, I suspect that it wasn't, ever, that. It was a fantasy, and when the dream wore off, only the demon was left.
2006-09-12 05:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No -- because battering your spouse or abusing your partner is not love.
Its better to have loved and lost -- lends to the personal growth you will have as you move through relationships.
2006-09-12 05:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How's about this one then, with that sentiment in mind.
Your first love, who you love more than anything in the world, and they love you the same, and who you are planning to spend the rest of your life with, dies at a young age to cancer?
Would it have been better to have not fallen for them in the first place, considering that 10 years after their death you are still in a bad way because of it?
That's what happened to me and I cannot honestly answer that question.
In reference to the battered wife bit, my Dad used to batter my Mum, and after 17 years she left him. I could never understand why she didn't leave a lot sooner, because he obviously didn't love her.
2006-09-12 05:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its better to have love and lost than to havent loved at all. but not a good term to used for those abused! its insanity to the 10th degree.
2006-09-12 05:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by pea_1208 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To have loved and to be loved are two different things, in your case he was the fortunate one and maybe someday he'll realize that you where the one that loved but he was the one that lost!
To give love and be loved in return is a beautiful thing.
2006-09-12 05:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by Nena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously doubt it was love in that case.
No, I would use the sentiment, hit me once I shoot you.
2006-09-12 05:18:03 · answer #9 · answered by JaMoke 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no not at all, move on leave him and start again someone good will love you well if you are nice, try and see
2006-09-12 05:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋