My brother walked in on me and my boyfriend having sex. He told me if I don't let him do me too. he would tell on me. He's 13 and I'm 15. Our parents won't be home friday night. I'm so scare he will tell. What would you do?
2006-09-12 05:06:55 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Come clean with your parents.. tell them that your having sex..
Now.. you can either.. tell your parents about your brother.. or.. when they go out on Friday.. you can sit the little punk down and tell him that that is not right.. and.. HE has an option.. he either tells your parents.. and ask for help.. or.. you will tell them.. turn the tables.. and accept your punishment.. but really.. would you rather your punishment or his??
2006-09-12 05:10:55 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you cannot tell your parents, then you most definitely need to tell someone else whether it be a best friend or an aunt or uncle, or even your family doctor. You do not have to mention your sexual activity as it is irrelevant to what he is proposing. Honestly, you should tell your parents. You will lose their trust if they find out from another source. You can expect a certain level of disappointment in your actions as well as arguments and lectures. What is important is that you remain calm and handle it like an adult. If you truly feel you are ready to be sexually active then you need to show some maturity by asking to be put on some form of birth control. Trust me dear, you do not want to be a teen mother. As far as Friday night goes, find another place to stay...go stay with a friend or another family member or something (this way you keep away from your brother so that nothing does happen).
2006-09-12 05:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by princezz051 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is something wrong when a brother is interested in having sex with his sister - let alone trying to blackmail her into it! Definitely don't let him treat you like that. Sex is not a game you can play or a bargaining chip for his silence.
I think you should talk to your parents.
I can only imagine how hard that will be for you but there are 2 issues here. One is the attitude and behaviours of your brother - who really needs professional counselling.
The other problem is that if you are sexually active, you risk becoming pregnant which would make your situation so much more difficult.
If you are afraid to talk to your parents alone, ask an adult you trust to help you tell them.
2006-09-12 07:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by mom of Em 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents yourself. Trust me, this is something they'd rather hear from you than your brother--I have a 16 year old daughter and 12 year old son. THEN tell them exactly what your brother said about wanting to have sex with you. Your brother needs help badly. While I don't agree with someone your age being sexually active (you're way too young to deal with the consequences), if you are doing the deed, you need to be protected as best you can. Please insist upon using condoms, you might even want to discuss going on birth control with your mom--she's not anymore ready to be a grandmother than you are a mother. But even being on birth control pills won't protect you from sexually transmitted diseases, so you'll still need to use condoms EVERY TIME YOU HAVE SEX. Oral sex counts too, by the way!!!
2006-09-12 06:10:28 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's better to tell your parents and deal with the punishment than to let your brother blackmail you like that. Furthermore, you need to tell them what he said because it sounds like your brother needs some serious help. If he's considering doing that to you, he may do it even if you do tell your parents about you and your boyfriend so you better be careful. Make sure you tell them.
A little embarrassment about sleeping with your boyfriend is a lot better than the emotional destruction that being raped by your brother will cause you and your family.
2006-09-12 09:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st off you shouldnt be having sex at all at 15 you obviously have no self respect for yourself if you end up pregnant your parents will know. You need to come clean with your mom and be truthful about having sex and your brother walking in and the threat he made to you. That is a very disturbing threat and he shouldnt even be looking at his sister in that way, he sounds like he needs help and counseling, You need to tell your parents Id rather them know I had sex with a boy then to have my brother RAPE me, also see if you can stay with a friend or a family member until your parents get back!!! Good luck to you
2006-09-13 07:21:31 · answer #6 · answered by landscaperschick73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel horrible for you. Let him tell. Sleeping with a family member is nothing you can ever take back. This is something that will mentally haunt you as an adult and I think is equivalent to rape. Tell him to go ahead and tell and that you will also let then know what he tried to blackmale you with, lets see who gets in the most trouble. What sick little boy, even if he were only a step brother, that's just sick. Good luck sweetie, I really do hope it all works out for you.
2006-09-12 06:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lets see, would you rather have sex with your brother or tell you mom before he does let the anger pass and then be able to discuss it with her.... if you let your brother have sex with you you will be haunted by it forever .... your parents would get over it and possibly be able to direct you onto a different path that may be more appropriate for a 13 year old....
For The Record you are much to young to be having sex with anyone.... you should stop.... and you should tell your parents that your brother is trying to have sex with you....
2006-09-12 05:18:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you're not asking people what should you do have sex with the little perv or get told on. Tell your parents on him that's way worse than you and your boyfriend having sex he needs therapy!!! And that way they can see you're at least some what responsible and would like to get on birth control since you are having sex.
2006-09-12 05:13:30 · answer #9 · answered by britt3m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to straight up tell your parents that your sexually active so they can get you on birth control pills and remember (they were kids once too).As far as your brother goes tell your parents that to you can NOT do that is just sickening and considered (incest)..You could get in alot of trouble..
2006-09-12 10:08:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋