I have a secerat that I am keeping from my man...
*NO I DID NOT cheet* That is not it...
I know if i tell him, it will effect our relationship....
It will prob break his heart!!
BUT IT IS KILLING ME!
If i tell i am prepared to suffer the consiquenses!
He may break up with me and I may have to move out!!
We are serious, but I always have my doubts!!
What do I do??
2006-09-12 05:05:50 · 13 answers · asked by mlara1222 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok I'll tell you...
I was pregnant.... and he knew and we were happy...
and i was haveing serious doubts, so i went and got an abortion but i told him i had a miscarriage!!
2006-09-12 05:13:07 · update #1
Now - or later?
Explain now and you have the chance to work it out.
Get found out or blurt it out a few years down the line and it could be disaster.
Try explaining first that you have something that you have not told him. That it hurts you deeply etc and then unburden yourself.
Relationships need to be built on trust. If you do not tell him then you are not trusting him and if he finds out that will be underlined in aces and spades.
Do the right thing. GOOD LUCK.
2006-09-12 05:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it be, my dear. It'll be of no good...
I understand your feelings, but what good do you aim to achieve by your "confession". You want to seek redemption now, but think how it will affect him in the whole process!
Your need is for your own benefit. For the one who hears your confession, it'll only be a painful burden. So, after taking one decision unilaterally, why dont you try to find the strength to bear the burden of your actions. Why dont you stop looking for the easiest way out!!
I deeply believe, when two people come together in love, they live for each other.
Instead of worrying about how hard it may be to move out, and break-up with him... I'd suggest that you try being slightly more self-less, and carry the guilt of your decision to not involve him in deciding the future of your unborn.
If you really wish to atone, promise your self to be true to him for the rest of your life, and seek comfort in the hope that for this sorrow that you brought for him, you'll fill his life with a lot of happiness.
2006-09-12 05:52:52 · answer #2 · answered by Ameya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to have a sincere relationship, you really need to be honest. Needless to say, regardless of whatever it is .. if he loves you I am sure things can be worked out
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-12 05:11:34 · answer #3 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure, it depends on if you are really planning to be with him forever or not. If you are going to dump him, don't hurt him even more by telling him this, he will only hate you for it. If you want to be with him though, you should come clean or it will eat you up inside. And the longer you wait to tell him the truth, the more pain it will cause him. Good luck!
2006-09-12 05:21:07 · answer #4 · answered by kindofkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its something that affects him as well as you then YES you need to tell him !
if its something that only affects you , then spare him the heartache .....
i cant imagine what else aside from cheating that would cause a break up .... unless its an STD ,, if thats the case then you HAVE got to tell him . good luck .
EDIT:
holy hell !!
thats a shi*y thing to do !
yes you need to tell him what you did ! if he is like the men i know , this will upset him badly ! and you have made a choice to do this alone ... you killed his baby ,, he deserves to know that .
good grief , here i was being all sympathetic !
you made this bed , now lay in it !
2006-09-12 05:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This had better not be story about keeping a library book past due. Not to knock whatever your story may be, but I'd like to hear it and I can give an honest answer.
2006-09-12 05:15:38 · answer #6 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. If you hold this in and he finds out later that you didn't tell him, he will be more upset than if you had just been upfront and honest to begin with. If he is very serious about you, you two can work it out!
2006-09-12 05:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by ACL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him. I would keep my mouth shut, i mean what secrete can break a relationship unless you cheated. Is it an STD that my do it too.
2006-09-12 05:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by Yen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him because in a relationship you should keep anything from each other if he really loves you he will forgive you trust me I know !!
2006-09-12 05:12:59 · answer #9 · answered by georgiachic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't tell him because it could mess up the relationship and he might have really wanted it
2006-09-12 06:03:43 · answer #10 · answered by Scooby_doo06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋