2006-09-12 04:58:55 · 31 answers · asked by HAS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Define what you are "FED up" about. Discuss it with your spouse.
Marriages tend to go in cycles. Ups and downs. Women tend to get fed up quicker then men. Men muddle through problems women see things as broken and unfixable.
Fact is, nearly every marital situation can be fixed (except for abuse) with discussion and intimacy.
YOU have to discuss WHAT specifically upsets you. Do so, in a non-blaming fashion.
Use statements such as "When you do this
Open the lines of communications. Couples need at least a 1/2 hour of connect time in the evening, no kids interrupting. One Date night PER WEEK, should be part of a person's wedding vows.
I've been married, divorced for 2 years and remarried the same woman, we had similar issues. It came down to communication. Period.
2006-09-12 05:07:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be the last person to say gt divorced. Not knowing all that is between you and your spouse makes it very difficult to give a good answer.
Do you two talk over any of the things that make you feel this way?
One of the best things to make a marriage successfully is good communication with the partner. You both have to be open to what is bugging you. If you of course do not communicate you can expect the glitter of your marriage to tarnish.
Perhaps you also need to gt help from a professional.
Just giving up and seeking a a divorce is not a quick fix to your problem.That's the best I can give you right now with the way you have posted your question.
2006-09-12 05:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't enough information to go on. 11 years means there was a commitment to each other, doesn't mean thing were good though. Are you just disillusioned by the whole thing? Meaning that you want fireworks and are not getting any? Or is there abuse? Are there children? Is trust an issue? Drugs? Alcohol? All relationships have high and low points. Can you work together to bring this one up to a higher point?
2006-09-12 05:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by eeyoreshunni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've only been married one year, I know the feeling but you women can be very demanding, try making him tea in bed and making an effort to make him feel special, men often get overlooked in this department. Stop him washing his own underpants. From a previous question I asked on 'ask' I was amazed to find that most women on the net find this particularly bonding and sexy. Stop the eleven year itch with a big cuddle when he gets in the door. You have probably lost the I'm 18 feeling and have not been bothered to get it back. Advice: from to day stick two fingers in the air to PC go for your man and become a woman again,relive your early married years (I guarantee you will achieve any goal you want , this is real man and women stuff not what female bullies try to beat out of you. Then come out of rehab into a much better world for you. YES! and talk him into that holiday you wanted. You can afford it if you work together.
The very best of luck.(I might have only been married a year but I know marriage takes work and if your like me you will work at it you train him and I'll train her)
2006-09-13 04:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by Redmonk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass isn't always greener on the other side you know. Talk to each other and find out what is wrong with your marriage. We all go through bad times but we can come out the other end if we work at it. I lost my husband 6 months ago after 35 years together and I can't begin to tell you what lonely feels like. Build on what you have there must have been something there for it to have lasted 11 years.
2006-09-13 02:16:24 · answer #5 · answered by holiday2408 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
11 years is along time to put into a relationship without trying all options to resolve it. I am going through a similar situation. However I have talked with my husband and told him the problems that I had been having. He seemed oblivious to these problems, however he said he would make an effort to do better, that he couldn't stand losing me, and so far he has. If you love your spouse, give your marriage a chance. Seek cousesling, start "dating" again. What ever you decide, I hope that you are happy and that all works out for the best.
2006-09-12 05:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are fed up then the two of you need to have a serious talk and if you can't talk to each other without one or the both of you getting fed up then you need to see a marriage counselor.
Divorce is too big of an issue to think about just because you are fed up at the moment.
Talk to your spouse not yahoo answers about this issue.
2006-09-12 05:06:18 · answer #7 · answered by butterflybaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah divorce em they sound horrific. Back to masturbation for a while my friend. I have the best of both worlds as I'm in a relationship but I w*nk like I'm single. In fact its about time now.
2006-09-12 05:04:11 · answer #8 · answered by eggy74uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrige is all about patience, not to be mean in any way but you didn't even take the time to use proper spelling and puncuation on a yahoo question. You show zero patience. If you can't even do that simple task how are you suppose to make a marrige work?
2006-09-12 05:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you know your exact reason you are fed up?maybe it can be resolved,do you have kids?all this is critical to know before answering,I have 9 yrs and I am fed up too but I have lots of reasons why I am fed up,he never supports me,he works 95% of the time and doesn't pay attention to me....those are mine,can you pin point yours?divorce is very drastic and final, I would be very careful before I make a decision like that and make sure my reasons are reason enough, unless of course you have fallen out of love, then thats all the reason you'll ever need.
2006-09-12 05:04:33 · answer #10 · answered by cris2326 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋